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it is easy to describe success in terms of money, fame and reputation. but i believe that success is not e_ternal. i believe that success comes from within. my definition of success is to be true to yourself, and be true to others. that means, that you must cherish your personal ideal even in the face of adversity. i also believe that success is not discriminatory. success is not restricted to such a class of people, in fact, it may be achieved by any person irrespective of his race, creed, gender and economic background. a good e_ample of success is that of beethoven. he is one of the world"s most famous composers, yet he was deaf. he could not hear the majestic pieces of music that he created. yet, in the face of this adversity, he was able to maintain his ideals--that of composing music.
用金钱、名誉和声望来描述成功,这很简单。但我相信成功不是外在的,我相信成功来源于自身。我对成功的定义是对已诚实,待人真诚。这就意味着即使面临困境厄运,你都必须坚守自己的理想。我同样相信成功没有偏见,成功不属于某一类人,事实上,不论种族、宗教信仰、性别和经济背景,任何人都能够获得。贝多芬的成功就是个很好的例子。他是世界上最著名的作曲家之一,而他却双耳失聪。他无法听到自己创作出的美妙乐章。然而,身处如此逆境,他仍然能够坚持自己的理想 ——作曲。
to e_emplify what success means to me, i pose a question to all of you. what brings us together here today? i believe that it is the beauty of the spoken word. the effect of pause and the sound of rhetoric are unique to the spoken word. i believe the beauty of the spoken word is even stronger for those who have difficulty in e_pressing themselves. these people are reclusive and had their emotions hidden within them. i once went to australia and i saw two pictures, once was drawn by a normal child, the other was drawn by a child with social inhibitions. the picture drawn by the normal child was simple and plain. the other was life-like, full of details and imagination. what this shows is that these are ideas, emotions and feelings that are locked internally in these
children.
为了举例说明我对成功的理解,我想给在座的诸位提一个问题。是什么让我们大家今天在此相会?我想是语言世界的美丽让我们走到了一起。停顿的效果和修辞之声是话语世界所独一无二的。我相信那些说话表达困难的人们对话语世界中的美丽体会得更为深刻。这些人都隐遁世间,把自己的感情深藏于心。我曾经去过澳大利亚,在那里看到了两幅画。一幅是正常儿童画的,另一幅是一个社会生活受限制的孩子画的。正常的孩子画的画简单、朴素,而另一幅却贴近现实生活,充满了细节和想象。这表明这些孩子的思想、情绪和感受都封闭在他们的内心深处。
my ideal is to be the key, spreading the beauty of the spoken words to these children. these children have been neglected, but i feel that i can and should help these children to find themselves and be able to e_press themselves.
我的理想是成为向这些孩子传播话语世界美好的钥匙。这些孩子曾被我们忽视,但我觉得我能够也应该帮助他们发现和认识自己,并且能够表达自己的想法。
i realize that this is a difficult task, and there are many obstacles on the way. but i believe in my ideals and i will stick to them--even in the face of adversity. we should never have a premature abortion of ideals--let the child, let our ideals, stand the challenge. for a life without ideals is not living.
我知道这是个艰巨的任务,实现起来会遇到许多困难和障碍。但我笃信自己的理想,并将坚守下去——即使逆境重重。我们千万不能对一个理想作出不成熟的弃绝决定——让这些孩子,让我们的理想经受挑战。因为,没有理想的生活是没有生气的。
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励志成功的英语演讲稿
dear all,
e_perience makes you succeedi still remembered the first time when i became a technical secondary school teacher of english literature. it seemed that it happened yesterday.
at that day, i got quite ready and i had the confidence to be a good teacher. i arrived at the classroom, eager to share my knowledge and e_perience with all the students of my class. having prepared for two days, i had no doubt to hold their attention and to impress on them my admiration for the literature.
“stand up!” the monitor spoke loudly. the entire class stood up as i entered the classroom. i was a little puzzled, but quickly that awkwardness was over, i regained my calmness and began my well-prepared lecture, sure to gain their respect--- or even their admiration. ‘i’m your english, miss jiang. today we are going to learn . . . ’ i was very pleased with work . as the bell rang, i went back to my office full of a sense of achievement. the following day when i read my students’ diaries, the rosy glow was gradually replaced by a strong sense of sadness. the first diary said, “our literature teacher didn’t teach us anything today. perhaps her ne_t lecture would be better.” greatly surprised, i read diary after diary, each e_pressed a similar theme. “didn’t i teach them anything? i described the entire framework and laid the background for the passage we would study in class,” i puzzled. “how should they say i taught them nothing?”
it was a long term, and it gradually became clear that my ideas about education weren’t the same as those of my students. i thought a teacher’s job was to raise interesting questions and provide enough background so that students could draw their own conclusions. my students thought a teacher’s job was to provide e_act information as directly and clearly as possible. what a difference! i tell myself i can handle it.’ compared to what others have been through , i’m fortunate. thinking of these sentences i felt something important struck me. i believe my life would not be that bad and it was proved to be true. later during my life and work i always told myself ‘i can handle it.’ when my own goals seemed far off or when my problems seemed too overwhelming. and every time i said it, i always came back to my senses.
now the e_perience with my students has made me learn a lot, and made me be a better english teacher.
the following year, it was september 10th. i went to class as well. when i stepped into the class, i felt surprised. there was a post card on the table, but i didn’t show it on my face. i began teaching lessons. after the class, i walked out of the class with a card in my hand. i opened the card in the office, it was a music card with words on it. it said ‘many thanks to you, miss jiang. we all love you we like your teaching.’ i was impressed by the words. how honest and simple the words were. hot tears couldn’t help dropping. at that time, i was so proud of being an english teacher.
so here, coming to us are words that can give us strength. whatever you’re going through, tell yourself you can handle it. tell this to yourself over and over, and it will help you get through the rough spots with little more fortitude.
3分钟励志成功的英语演讲稿
belief in yourself is the secret of success
from the moment we are born, our destiny had been set. it is the start of our life. as a little child, we go to school and are curious to everything in the world.
when we get older, we tend to understand the function in this world.
we start to think, sometimes wonder about life. ne_t thing we know, we are growing up. the world is changing, and our life is changing everyday.
right now, this particular moment in our life, we think again.
we have we done in our life?
are we successful?
are we rich?
are we happy? and flashbacks starts, the memories took charge of our brain.
we reflect to ourselves, we question ourselves.
why are we not successful?
why are we not rich?
why are we not happy?
then, we need to ask how.
how to be successful?
how to be rich?
how to be happy?
with the questions, we figure out the answers. one of the dominating techqniue to be successful is first start from yourself. believe in yourself. if you don"t believe in what you can do, then who else?
if you don"t care about yourself, then who else? trust your feelings, believe that you can do it. and as long as you hold that thought, nothing, nothing can stop you.
the successful future right ahead of you are led by a pathway called belief.
英语励志演讲稿
success is everyone wants, whether it was or the cause of education. give people the joy of success.
how can we succeed? the great inventor thomas edison said, genius is 99 percent on 1 percent of the hard work and inspiration. success must be hard work. if you sleep, is unlikely to succeed.
edison invented the light bulb durable, he has done many thousands of e_periments, but still no way to enable the ability to live in high-temperature filament. ne_t to it was said: "bah! can not find even a. you have made so many e_periments, and can not find, do not white and effort, and doing anything else now!" he said: "i must ability to find a live high-temperature materials, he must find out. "work pays off, he finally invented a durable light bulb, so that the well-being of people around the world to be known as the 20th century, one of the greatest inventions.
we need to learn the spirit of his, if he was not unremitting efforts, it is impossible to invent the light bulb durability, we can see the need for the conditions of success, as long as required to meet the conditions for success, success easy.
seize the opportunity is one of the conditions for success. for e_ample it! bill gates, the world"s richest university, a keen awareness of the emerging computer industry in this huge business opportunities, he dropped out from harvard university, and with their friends opened a computer company called microsoft, when his friends friends are opposed to what he has done, but bill gates said, time will prove that i am right to do so. now, computers in all walks of life in a wide range of applications, to the people"s work and life have brought tremendous changes, microsoft has become the world"s largest software one.
there are a lot of success, for e_ample, scientific and cultural qualities of their own. without a good basic knowledge, even though hard work and a heaven-sent opportunity to succeed or not. there are left to help others, it is necessary to embark on the path of success and is e_ceptionally difficult.
to be successful, needs to be done and opportunities.
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ted英语演讲:成功的八个秘诀(中英双语)
this is really a two-hour presentation i give to high school students, cut down to three minutes. and it all started one day on a plane, on my way to ted, seven years ago. and in the seat ne_t to me was a high school student, a teenager, and she came from a really poor family.
这真的是一个我给高中学生做的2个小时的演讲 现在缩到了3分钟 所有的一切都是从7年前的一天开始, 我坐在飞往ted会议的飞机上。 在我邻座坐的是一个 高中生,一个十几岁的年轻人。 她生于一个贫穷的家庭 而且她的愿望是成就一番事业 所以她问了我一个简单的小问题。
and she wanted to make something of her life, and she asked me a simple little question. she said, "what leads to success?" and i felt really badly, because i couldn"t give her a good answer. so i get off the plane, and i come to ted. and i think, jeez, i"m in the middle of a room of successful people! so why don"t i ask them what helped them succeed, and pass it on to kids? so here we are, seven years, 500 interviews later, and i"m gonna tell you what really leads to success and makes ted-sters tick.
她说:"怎样做才能成功呢?" 我当时觉得糟透了 因为我不能给她一个满意的答案 后来我下了飞机,来到ted 忽然间我想到,天啊,我置身于一屋子成功人士之中! 为什么我不问问他们是怎样走向成功的呢。 这样我就可以把答案告诉孩子们了。 所以就这样,7年中我坐了500次采访。 现在我就要告诉你们是什么带来了成功 是什么启发了ted演讲者们。
and the first thing is passion.
第一点是激情
freeman thomas says, "i"m driven by my passion." ted-sters do it for love; they don"t do it for money. carol coletta says, "i would pay someone to do what i do." and the interesting thing is: if you do it for love, the money comes anyway.
freeman thomas 说:"我总是被我的热情所牵引着" ted的讲演者因为有爱才做事情,不是为了钱。 carol colletta 说:"我会付给别人钱去做我的工作。" 有趣的是 如果你是为了爱而做的,钱自然而然就来了。
work!
刻苦
rupert murdoch said to me, "it"s all hard work. nothing comes easily. but i have a lot of fun." did he say fun? rupert? yes! ted-sters do have fun working. and they work hard. i figured, they"re notworkaholics. they"re workafrolics.
rupert murdoch 曾经告诉过我 "都是刻苦" 为努力" "天下没有白吃的午餐。但是我得到了很多乐趣。" 他提到了乐趣??rupert?是的! ted讲演者都有一份充满乐趣的工作,而且他们都很刻苦。 我觉得,他们都不是工作狂,他们是享受工作狂
good!
精通
ale_ garden says, "to be successful put your nose down in something and get damn good at it." there"s no magic; it"s practice, practice, practice.
ale_ garden说:"要想成功,就要真的深入其中" "然后做到精通。" 想要做到精通没有秘诀,就是练习,练习,再练习。 还
and it"s focus.
有就是专注
norman jewison said to me, "i think it all has to do with focusing yourself on one thing."
norman jewison 告诉过我, "我想成功就要使自己专注于一件事情"
and push!
强迫
david gallo says, "push yourself. physically, mentally, you"ve gotta push, push, push." you gotta push through shyness and self-doubt. goldie hawn says, "i always had self-doubts. i wasn"t good enough; i wasn"t smart enough. i didn"t think i"d make it." now it"s not always easy to push yourself, and that"s why they invented mothers. (laughter) frank gehry — frank gehry said to me, "my mother pushed me."
david gallo说:"强迫你自己," "心灵上,神情上。你一定要强迫,强迫,强迫。" "你要强迫自己去战胜羞涩和自我怀疑" goldie hawn说:"我总是怀疑自己。 怀疑自己不够优秀,不用聪明。 我从不相信我会成功。" 想要成功地强迫自己并不总容易, 这就是为什么要发明妈妈。 frank gehry-frank gehry对我说: "我妈妈过去总是督促我。"
serve!
服务
sherwin nuland says, "it was a privilege to serve as a doctor." now a lot of kids tell me they want to be millionaires. and the first thing i say to them is: "ok, well you can"t serve yourself; you gotta serve others something of value. because that"s the way people really get rich."
sherwin nuland 说:"能够作为一名医生为他人服务是一种荣幸。" 现在很多孩子告诉我他们想成为百万富翁。 但是一件事我对他们说的"是, "好的,但是你不能为你自己服务," "你需要为他人提供对他人有利的服务。" "因为这就是人们致富的方式。"
ideas!
点子
ted-ster bill gates says, "i had an idea: founding the first micro-computer software company." i"d say it was a pretty good idea. and there"s no magic to creativity in coming up with ideas — it"s just doing some very simple things. and i give lots of evidence.
ted演讲者 bill gates 说:"我曾经有过一个点子," 成立第一个微机软件公司。"我必须承认这真的是很好的一个点子。 对于能想出点子的创造力来讲没有什么魔力可言。 都是些简单平常的事情。 而且我可以举出很多证据。
persist!
坚持
joe kraus says, "persistence is the number one reason for our success." you gotta persist through failure. you gotta persist through crap! which of course means "criticism, rejection, assholes and pressure." (laughter) so, the big — the answer to this question is simple: pay 4,000 bucks and come to ted. or failing that, do the eight things — and trust me, these are the big eight things that lead to success. thank you ted-sters for all your interviews!
joe kraus 说 "恒心是我们成功地第一条原因。"你必须坚持度过失败,你必须坚持度过crap,这里的crap是指"批评,拒绝,卑鄙小人和压力" (大笑) 所以,这个问题的答案很简单: 付4000块来ted会场。 如果不能来,就做到以上八点---相信我, 这重要的八点就是通向成功的秘诀。 谢谢ted讲演者参与我的采访!
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成功的定义英文演讲稿
my definition of success
“once upon a time, there was a king who had a daughter as beautiful as a blooming rose. to all the suitors who came to the king"s palace to ask for the hand of the princess, the old king assigned three tasks to be accomplished, each ne_t to impossible. one day, into the king"s palace came a handsome young prince..." well, you know the rest. the three tasks may be different in different versions, but the main plot is always the same, with the prince claiming the princess"s hand triumphantly.and the ending is always the same, finishing with the line "and they live happily every after."
why aren"t we tired of something so fanciful, so unrealistic, and, i would say, so unimaginative? how can a story like that endure generations of repetition`? because, i think, it is a typical success story. it is highly philosophical and symbolic. by implication, we see a 4-step definition of success: 1 ) a goal to be set. as represented by the beautiful princess; 2 ) challenges to be met, as represented by the three tasks; 3 ) the process of surmounting difficulties, as represented by the ordeals the youth goes through; and 4 ) the reward of success, as represented by the happy marriage.
the story not only caters to everyone"s inward yearning for success, but also emphasizes the inseparability of the process and the result. the reward of success will be much amplified if the path leading towards it is treacherous, and vice versa. if a person inherits his father"s millions and leads an easy life, he is not a successful person even in material terms, because there are no difficulties involved in his achieving affluence. the term "success", to be sure. will not sit still for easy definition. but as i understand it, the true meaning of success entails a combination of both the process and the satisfactory result of an endeavor. to clarify my view, let me give another analogy.
if we changed the rules of football, greatly enlarged the goal and sent away david seaman or any other goal keeper, so that another david, namely david beckham, could score easily, then scoring would not give him the thrill of accomplishment and the joy that it brings. if we further changed the rules by not allowing arsenal"s defenders to defend, so that beckham needed only to lift a finger, actually a toe, to score, then there would be no game at all, because the meaning of winning would have disappeared. in accepting the challenge, in surmounting the difficulties and in enduring the hardship, success acquires its value. the sense of attainment varies in proportion to the degree of difficulties on overcomes.
the concept of success is not constant but relative because the nature of difficulty is also relative. something you do effortlessly might pose a great difficulty for a handicapped person. in acquiring the ability to do the same as you can, he or she achieve success. that"s why we greatly admire stephen hawking, because, though confined to a wheel chair, he has contributed greatly to the field of science.
i myself, a rather shy person by nature who easily suffer from stage fright, had to pluck up great courage to take part in a speech contest like this. i could have stayed away and had an easy time of it by not entering the university level contest.but i chose to accept the challenge and to face the difficulties. now here i am. if i come out first, it will be a great success for me. if i come out last-i hope this will not be the case-but if i come out last, i will not call my attempt a failure, but will also celebrate it as a true success, because part of my goal is my own character training-to do more assertive, to be brave in face of difficulties. for me, it is a meaningful step forward, small as it is, in the long journey toward the final success in my life, because i have truly gained by participating.
let us return to our handsome young prince and the 4-step definition of success. you my have noticed that the usual worldly criteria of wealth, position and fame were not mentioned as part of the story, but rather, it emphasized the process of overcoming difficulties. the ancient wisdom had already defined the meaning of success, and this is my definition, too.
thank you.
译文:成功之我见
很久以前,有个国王,他的女儿貌美如花。老国王向所有来求婚的男士提出了三个任务作为挑战,而每一项任务都异常艰巨,几乎不可能完成。一天,来了一位年轻英俊的王子……”好了,下面的故事你们都知道了。三项任务在不同的版本中各不相同,但关键部分的情节都如出一辙:王子成功地过关,得到了公主的芳心。而故事的结局也都一样,最后一句都写道:“从此他们幸福地生活在一起。 为什么我们对如此美妙、如此不切实际,而我要说,如此缺乏想象力的东西这么乐此不疲呢?这样的故事又如何能够经历几代人的重复?我想,因为它是典型的成功的例子。故事的思想性很强,具有代表性。通过故事带给我们的启示,我们认识到了成功定义中的四个步骤;第一,目标的设定,有如故事里美丽的公主;第二,所遇到的困难和挑战,就像三大任务;第三,克服困难的过程,故事中青年经历重重难关可以作为象征;第四,就是成功的果实,如同幸福的婚姻。 这个故事不仅迎合了人们内心深处对成功的向往,也强调了过程和结果的不可分离。如果通往成功的道路崎岖曲折,那么成功的回报必然硕果累累,反之亦然。如果一个人继承了父辈的百万家产而生活得轻松富足,那么,即使在物质上,他也不能算是个成功人士,因为,他的财富并没有经过艰难困苦而获得。确切地说,“成功”这个词,不是个静态简单的定义。在我的理解中,真正意义上的成功是奋斗的过程和经历了奋斗之后赢得的满意的结果。请让我另举一例来阐明我的见解。 如果我们试着改变足球的比赛规则,将球门放得很大,换下大卫·希曼或其他任何的守门员,这样,随便哪个“大卫”,比如说,“大卫·贝克汉姆”,就可以轻松进球,然而这样进一球却不能给他带来成功的震颤与喜悦。如果我们再改一改比赛规则,不让阿森纳队的防守来守门,那么,贝克汉姆只要动动手,其实就是抬抬脚就能进一球,那样的话、,实际上也没有什么比赛可言了,因为赢球的意义已经不存在了。在接受挑战、克服困难和经历磨难的过程中,“成功”的价值才得以丰满。取得成果的意义和所克服的艰难的程度成正比。所谓成功的概念不是一成不变的.而昙相对而言的,因为困难的性质也是相对意义上的。 正常人不费力气做成的事对于一个残疾人来说也许相当困难。获得了同正常人一样的能力,这个残疾人就获得了成功。这便是我们为什么崇敬史蒂芬·霍金的原因—虽然行动不便,受到了轮椅的限制,他依然为科学界作出了巨大的贡献。 就我自己而言,生性羞涩,容易怯场,不得不鼓起非常大的勇气来参加此次的演讲比赛。我完全可以待在一边,不参加大学级别的比赛,而落得轻松自在。可是,我还是选择了接受这一挑战来面对困难。现在我来了,如果我能够得第一的话.这对我来说就是巨大的成功。如果,我是最后一名—我希望情况不是这样—但如果我真的是最后一名,我也不会认为这次的尝试是一次失败,反而我要把它当作一次真正的成功来庆贺,因为我一部分的目标是对自己性格的锻炼—更加坚强、勇敢地面对困难。对我来说,这标志着我在通向成功人生的漫漫征途中又向前迈进了一步,尽管是很小的一步,但是我确实通过参与真正地获得了收益。
回到我们年轻英俊的王子和对“成功”的四步骤定义上吧,您也许已经注意到了财富、地位和名誉等这些世俗的标准在故事中并未提及,相反故事强调了克服重重困难的过程。古代的智慧已经对成功的意义下了定义,这也是我的定义。
谢谢!
5分钟成功的定义英文演讲稿
today i am very glad to be here to share with you my ideas of success. what is success? it is what everyone is longing for.sometimes success would be rather simple. winning a game is success; getting a high grade in the e_am is success; making a new friend is success; even now i am standing here giving my speech is somehow also success.
however, as a person’s whole life is concerned, success becomes very
complicated. is fortune success? is fame success? is high social status success? no, i don’t think so. i believe success is the realization of people’s hopes and ideals.nowadays, in the modern society there are many people who are regarded as the successful. and the most obvious characteristics of hem are money, high position and lu_urious life. so most people believe that s success and all that they do is for this purpose. but the problem is wether it is real success. we all know there are always more money, higher position and better condition in front of us. if we keep chasing them, where is the end? what will satisfy us at last? therefore, we can see, to get the real success we must need something inside, which is the realization of people’ hopes and ideals.
different people have different ideas about success; cause people’s hopes and ideas vary from one another. but i am sure every success is dear to everybody, cause it is not easy to come by, cause in the process of our striving for success, we got both our body and soul tempted, meanwhile we are enlightened by the most valuable qualities of human beings: love, patient, courage and sense of responsibility. these are the best treasures. so now i am very proud that i have this opportunity to stand here speaking to all of you. it is my success, cause i raise up to challenge my hope.
what is success? everyone has his own interpretation as i do. but i am sure every success leads to an ever-brighter future. so ladies and gentlemen, believe in our hopes, believe in ourselves, we, every one of us, can make a successful life!
wish you all good success
今天我很高兴来到这里与你们分享我的想法的成功。什么是成功?这是每个人都渴望。有时成功是相当简单。赢得一场比赛是成功,获得优质的考试成功;做一个新朋友是成功,甚至我现在站在这里给我的演讲也以某种方式成功。
然而,随着一个人的一生来说,成功变得非常
复杂。是财富的成功?名人的成功吗?高社会地位的成功?不,我不这么认为。我相信成功是实现人民的希望和理想。如今,在现代社会有很多人被认为是成功的。和下摆的最明显的特征是钱,高位置和奢侈的生活。所以大多数人认为成功和他们做的一切是为了这个目的。但问题是是否它是真正的成功。我们都知道总有更多的钱,较高的位置和更好的条件在我们面前。如果我们继续追逐,尽头在哪里?最后将满足我们什么?因此,我们可以看到,获得真正的成功,我们必须需要的东西在里面,这是人们的希望和理想的实现。
不同的人有不同的想法关于成功;引起人们的希望和想法不同。但是我相信每一个成功是亲爱的大家,因为它是不容易的,因为在我们追求成功的过程中,我们有两个我们的身体和灵魂的诱惑,与此同时我们开明的人类的最宝贵的品质:爱、耐心、勇气和责任感。这些是最好的财富。现在我很自豪,因为我有机会站在这里跟大家说话。这是我的成功,因为我举起来挑战我的希望。
什么是成功?每个人都有自己的解释和我一样。但我相信每一个成功导致了浦江的未来。所以,女士们,先生们,相信我们的希望,相信自己,我们,我们每一个人,可以让一个成功的人生!
祝你一切美好的成功!
英语演讲稿成功的定义篇
have you ever thought why there are very few great people? i think there is probably only one great person out of 10,000 at best, and most probably much less than that. but why? most people want to be great, right? why are there only very few of them? here is the reason:
你有没有想过为什么成功的人那么少?我想,大概在一万个人里有一个人能获得成功就很好了。但是为什么会这样呢?我们大多数人都渴望成功,不是吗?那为什么成功的人还是屈指可数呢?原因如下:
most people do not pay the price of greatness.
大多数人没有为成功付出代价。
i think this one is quite obvious. now, the ne_t question is: why not? if there are so many people who want to be great, why only very few of them actually pay the price? the answer to these questions e_plains the difference between the almost 100% people who want to be great and the much less than 0.01% who actually be so.
这个答案显而易见。那么,就引出了下一个问题:为什么有那么多人想要成功,而只有很少数的人愿意为成功付出代价呢?这个问题的答案就能把0.01%真正获得成功的人和几乎是100%想要获得成功的人给区分开来。
the reason why very few people actually pay the price is this: the road to greatness is continuously painful for long time.
极少数人愿意为成功付出代价的真正原因在于:成功之路须要长期痛苦的坚持。
greatness requires sacrifices and there is no sacrifice without pain. the kind of sacrifices required for greatness is the ones that make the process continuously painful for long time. if you want to be good it will be painful only every now and then, and many people can still handle it. but being great is a totally different level. the pain is much deeper and it is continuous. very few people can endure this kind of pain and that’s why there are very few great people. most people naturally choose things that bring pleasures to them. it’s unnatural to choose pain over pleasure, let alone doing it continuously for long time.
成功须要牺牲,而所有的牺牲都伴随着痛苦。获得成功所需要的牺牲是长期的、痛苦的。如果你的目标是优秀,那可能只是“短痛”而已,很多人还是可以承受得住的。但是,想要成功,那么所需要承受得就是“长痛”了。大多数人会选择能给自己带来快乐的事物,这是自然的选择。很少有人会抛开快乐去选择痛苦,更不用说是长期的痛苦了。
but that’s what i believe is the secret to greatness: the secret to greatness is choosing pain over pleasures continuously for long time.
但是正是上述原因让我相信,成功的秘密就在于:选择痛苦而不是快乐,并能够长期坚持承受痛苦。
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演说题目:8 secrets of success
演说者:richard st. john
this is really a two-hour presentation i give to high school students, cut down to three minutes. and it all started one day on a plane, on my way to ted, seven years ago. and in the seat ne_t to me was a high school student, a teenager, and she came from a really poor family.
这真的是一个我给高中学生做的2个小时的演讲,现在缩到了3分钟。所有的一切都是从7年前的一天开始,我坐在飞往ted会议的飞机上。在我邻座坐的是一个高中生,一个十几岁的年轻人。她生于一个贫穷的家庭而且她的愿望是成就一番事业。
and she wanted to make something of her life, and she asked me a simple little question. she said, "what leads to success?"and i felt really badly, because i couldn"t give her a good answer.
所以她问了我一个简单的小问题。她说:"怎样做才能成功呢?" 我当时觉得糟透了,因为我不能给她一个满意的答案。
so i get off the plane, and i come to ted. and i think, jeez, i"m in the middle of a room of successful people! so why don"t i ask them what helped them succeed, and pass it on to kids? so here we are, seven years, 500 interviews later, and i"m going to tell you what really leads to success and makes tedsters tick.
后来我下了飞机,来到ted,忽然间我想到,天啊,我置身于一屋子成功人士之中!为什么我不问问他们是怎样走向成功的呢。这样我就可以把答案告诉孩子们了。所以就这样,7年中我坐了500次采访。现在我就要告诉你们是什么带来了成功,是什么启发了ted演讲者们。
and the first thing is passion. freeman thomas says, "i"m driven by my passion." tedsters do it for love; they don"t do it for money.
第一点是激情,freeman thomas 说:"我总是被我的热情所牵引着" ted的讲演者因为有爱才做事情,不是为了钱。
carol coletta says, "i would pay someone to do what i do." and the interesting thing is: if you do it for love, the money comes anyway.
carol colletta 说:"我会付给别人钱去做我的工作。" 有趣的是,如果你是为了爱而做的,钱自然而然就来了。
work! rupert murdoch said to me, "it"s all hard work. nothing comes easily. but i have a lot of fun." did he say fun? rupert? yes!
刻苦!rupert murdoch曾经告诉过我 "都是刻苦" 为努力" "天下没有白吃的午餐。但是我得到了很多乐趣。" 他提到了乐趣rupert?是的!
tedsters do have fun working. and they work hard. i figured, they"re not workaholics. they"re workafrolics.
ted讲演者都有一份充满乐趣的工作,而且他们都很刻苦。我觉得,他们都不是工作狂,他们是享受工作狂 精通!
good!ale_ garden says, "to be successful, put your nose down in something and get damn good at it."there"s no magic; it"s practice, practice, practice.
ale_ garden说:"要想成功,就要真的深入其中""然后做到精通。" 想要做到精通没有秘诀,就是练习,练习,再练习。
and it"s focus. norman jewison said to me, "i think it all has to do with focusing yourself on one thing."and push! david gallo says, "push yourself. physically, mentally, you"ve got to push, push, push."you"ve got to push through shyness and self-doubt.
还有就是专注。norman jewison 告诉过我, "我想成功就要使自己专注于一件事情" 强迫!david gallo说:"强迫你自己," "心灵上,神情上。你一定要强迫,强迫,强迫。" "你要强迫自己去战胜羞涩和自我怀疑"
goldie hawn says, "i always had self-doubts. i wasn"t good enough; i wasn"t smart enough. i didn"t think i"d make it."now it"s not always easy to push yourself, and that"s why they invented mothers
goldie hawn说:"我总是怀疑自己。怀疑自己不够优秀,不用聪明。我从不相信我会成功。" 想要成功地强迫自己并不总容易,这就是为什么要发明妈妈。
(applause) frank gehry said to me, "my mother pushed me."serve! sherwin nuland says, "it was a privilege to serve as a doctor."
frank gehry-frank gehry对我说: "我妈妈过去总是督促我。" 服务!sherwin nuland 说:"能够作为一名医生为他人服务是一种荣幸。"
a lot of kids want to be millionaires. the first thing i say is: "ok, well you can"t serve yourself; you"ve got to serve others something of value. because that"s the way people really get rich."
现在很多孩子告诉我他们想成为百万富翁。 但是一件事我对他们说的是, "好的,但是你不能为你自己服务," "你需要为他人提供对他人有利的服务。" "因为这就是人们致富的方式。" 点子。
ideas! tedster bill gates says, "i had an idea: founding the first micro-computer software company."i"d say it was a pretty good idea. and there"s no magic to creativity in coming up with ideas — it"s just doing some very simple things. and i give lots of evidence.
ted演讲者bill gates 说:"我曾经有过一个点子," "成立第一个微机软件公司。" 我必须承认这真的是很好的一个点子。对于能想出点子的创造力来讲没有什么魔力可言。都是些简单平常的事情。而且我可以举出很多证据。
persist! joe kraus says, "persistence is the number one reason for our success." you"ve got to persist through failure. you"ve got to persist through crap! which of course means "criticism, rejection, assholes and pressure."
坚持。joe kraus 说 "恒心是我们成功地第一条原因。" "你必须坚持度过失败,你必须坚持度过crap" "这里的crap是指"批评,拒绝,卑鄙小人和压力"
so, the answer to this question is simple: pay 4,000 bucks and come to ted.or failing that, do the eight things — and trust me, these are the big eight things that lead to success.
所以,这个问题的答案很简单:付4000块来ted会场。如果不能来,就做到以上八点—-相信我, 这重要的八点就是通向成功的秘诀。
thank you tedsters for all your interviews!(applause)
谢谢ted讲演者参与我的采访!
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belief in yourself is the secret of success
from the moment we are born, our destiny had been set. it is the start of our life. as a little child, we go to school and are curious to everything in the world.
when we get older, we tend to understand the function in this world.
we start to think, sometimes wonder about life. ne_t thing we know, we are growing up. the world is changing, and our life is changing everyday.
right now, this particular moment in our life, we think again.
we have we done in our life?
are we successful?
are we rich?
are we happy? and flashbacks starts, the memories took charge of our brain.
we reflect to ourselves, we question ourselves.
why are we not successful?
why are we not rich?
why are we not happy?
then, we need to ask how.
how to be successful?
how to be rich?
how to be happy?
with the questions, we figure out the answers. one of the dominating techqniue to be successful is first start from yourself. believe in yourself. if you don"t believe in what you can do, then who else?
if you don"t care about yourself, then who else? trust your feelings, believe that you can do it. and as long as you hold that thought, nothing, nothing can stop you.
the successful future right ahead of you are led by a pathway called belief.
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no winning or no losing
perhaps the sky is still blue, but i can see the black sky. perhaps the flowers are still beautiful, but i can see the ugly flowers. perhaps the sun still shines, but there’s no sun in my world. perhaps the world doesn’t change, but my world is changing. the e_am has been over, but i can’t wake up because i think i did very badly.
but i know, even if you didn’t do well this time, but you can do well ne_t time. time can’t run backwards, you can try your best to do something well in the future.
i think, there’s no winning or losing in the world. tomorrow, the sun rises again; we will have a new day!
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演说题目:我们不该放弃对成功的想象!
演讲者:alain de botton
中英文翻译:
for me they normally happen, these career crises, often, actually, on a sunday evening, just as the sun is starting to set,
我经常对事业感到恐慌,周日下午,晚霞洒满天空,
and the gap between my hopes for myself and the reality of my life starts to diverge so painfully that i normally end up weeping into a pillow.
我的理想和现实的差距却是这样残酷,令我沮丧的只想抱头痛哭。
i"m mentioning all this -- i"m mentioning all this because i think this is not merely a personal problem; you may think i"m wrong in this, but i think we live in an age when our lives are regularly punctuated by career crises,
我提出这件事是因为,我认为不只有我这么感觉。你可能不这么认为,但我感觉我们活在一个充满事业恐慌的时代,
by moments when what we thought we knew -- about our lives, about our careers -- comes into contact with a threatening sort of reality.
就在我们认为我们已经理解我们的人生和事业时,真实便来恐吓我们。
it"s perhaps easier now than ever before to make a good living. it"s perhaps harder than ever before to stay calm, to be free of career an_iety. i want to look now, if i may, at some of the reasons why we might be feeling an_iety about our careers.
现在或许比以前更容易过上好生活,但却比以前更难保持冷静,或不为事业感到焦虑。今天我想要检视,我们对事业感到焦虑的一些原因,
why we might be victims of these career crises, as we"re weeping softly into our pillows. one of the reasons why we might be suffering is that we are surrounded by snobs.
为何我们会变成事业焦虑的囚徒。不时抱头痛哭,折磨人的因素之一是,我们身边的那些势利鬼。
in a way, i"ve got some bad news, particularly to anybody who"s come to o_ford from abroad. there"s a real problem with snobbery, because sometimes people from outside the u.k. imagine that snobbery is a distinctively u.k. phenomenon, fi_ated on country houses and titles.
对那些来访牛津大学的外国友人,我有一个坏消息,这里的人都很势利。有时候,英国以外的人会想象,势利是英国人特有的个性,来自那些乡间别墅和头衔爵位。
the bad news is that"s not true. snobbery is a global phenomenon; we area global organization, this is a global phenomenon. what is a snob? a snob is anybody who takes a small part of you, and uses that to come to a complete vision of who you are. that is snobbery.
坏消息是,并不只是这样,势利是一个全球性的问题,我们是个全球性的组织,这是个全球性的问题,它确实存在。势利是什么?,势利是以一小部分的你,来判别你的全部价值,那就是势利。
the dominant kind of snobbery that e_ists nowadays is job snobbery. you encounter it within minutes at a party, when you get asked that famous iconic question of the early 21st century, "what do you do?"
今日最主要的势利,就是对职业的势利。你在派对中不用一分钟就能体会到,当你被问到这个21世纪初,最有代表性的问题:你是做什么的?
according to how you answer that question, people are either incredibly delighted to see you, or look at their watch and make their e_cuses.
你的答案将会决定对方接下来的反应,对方可能对你在场感到荣幸,或是开始看表,然后想个借口离开。
now, the opposite of a snob is your mother.not necessarily your mother, or indeed mine, but, as it were, the ideal mother, somebody who doesn"t care about your achievements.
势利鬼的另一个极端,是你的母亲。不一定是你我的母亲,而是一个理想母亲的想象,一个永远义无反顾的爱你,不在乎你是否功成名就的人。
unfortunately, most people are not our mothers. most people make a strict correlation between how much time, and if you like, love -- not romantic love, though that may be something -- but love in general, respect --they are willing to accord us, that will be strictly defined by our position in the social hierarchy.
不幸地,大部分世人都不怀有这种母爱,大部分世人决定要花费多少时间,给于多少爱,不一定是浪漫的那种爱,虽然那也包括在内,世人所愿意给我们的关爱、尊重,取决于我们的社会地位。
and that"s a lot of the reason why we care so much about our careers and indeed start caring so much about material goods. you know, we"re often told that we live in very materialistic times, that we"re all greedy people. i don"t think we are particularly materialistic.
这就是为什么我们如此在乎事业和成就,以及看重金钱和物质的原因。我们时常被告知我们处在一个物质挂帅的时代,我们都是贪婪的人。
i think we live in a society which has simply pegged certain emotional rewards to the acquisition of material goods. it"s not the material goods we want;
我并不认为我们特别看重物质,而是活在一个物质能带来大量情感反馈的时代。
it"s the rewards we want. it"s a new way of looking at lu_ury goods. the ne_t time you see somebody driving a ferrari, don"t think, "this is somebody who"s greedy."
我们想要的不是物质,而是背后的情感反馈,这赋予奢侈品一个崭新的意义。下次你看到那些开着法拉利跑车的人,你不要想"这个人很贪婪",
think, "this is somebody who is incredibly vulnerable and in need of love." feel sympathy, rather than contempt.
而是"这是一个无比脆弱、急需爱的人",也就是说,同情他们,不要鄙视他们。
there are other reasons --there are other reasons why it"s perhaps harder now to feel calm than ever before. one of these, and it"s parado_ical, because it"s linked to something that"s rather nice, is the hope we all have for our careers.
还有一些其他的理由,使得我们更难获得平静。这有些矛盾,因为拥有自己的事业,是一件不错的事,
never before have e_pectations been so high about what human beings can achieve with their life span.we"re told, from many sources, that any onecan achieve anything.
但同时,人们也从未对自己的短暂一生有过这么高的期待。这个世界用许多方法告诉我们,我们无所不能。
we"ve done away with the caste system, we are now in a system where anyone can rise to any position they please. and it"s a beautiful idea. along with that is a kind of spirit of equality;
我们不再受限于阶级,而是只要靠着努力就能攀上我们想到的高度。这是个美丽的理想,出于一种生而平等的精神,
we"re all basically equal. there are no strictly defined hierarchies. there is one really big problem with this, and that problem is envy.
我们基本上是平等的,没有任何明显的阶级存在。这造成了一个严重的问题,这个问题是嫉妒。
envy, it"s a real taboo to mention envy, but if there"s one dominant emotion in modern society, that is envy. and it"s linked to the spirit of equality.
嫉妒在今日是一种禁忌话题,但这个社会上最普遍的感受,便是嫉妒。嫉妒来自生而平等的精神。
let me e_plain. i think it would be very unusual for anyone here, or anyone watching, to be envious of the queen of england. even though she is much richer than any of you are, and she"s got a very large house, the reason why we don"t envy her is because she"s too weird.
这么说吧,我想在场的各位,或是观看这个影片的众位,很少有人会嫉妒英国女皇。虽然她比我们都更加富有,住在一个巨大的房子里,我们不会嫉妒她的原因是她太怪异了。
she"s simply too strange. we can"t relate to her, she speaks in a funny way, she comes from an odd place. so we can"t relate to her, and when you can"t relate to somebody, you don"t envy them.
她太怪了,我们无法想象自己与她扯上关系,她的语调令人发噱,来自一个奇怪的地方,我们与她毫无关联。当你认为你与这个人毫无关联时,你便不会嫉妒。
the closer two people are -- in age, in background, in the process of identification -- the more there"s a danger of envy, which is incidentally why none of you should ever go to a school reunion, because there is no stronger reference point than people one was at school with.
越是两个年龄、背景相近的人,越容易陷入嫉妒的苦海,所以千万避免去参加同学会。因为没有比同学,更强烈的参照点了。
the problem of modern society is it turns the whole world into a school. everybody"s wearing jeans, everybody"s the same. and yet, they"re not. so there"s a spirit of equality combined with deep inequality, which can make for a very stressful situation.
今日社会的问题是,它把全世界变成了一个学校,每个人都穿着牛仔裤,每个人都一样。但并非如此,当生而平等的概念遇上现实中悬殊的不平等,巨大的压力就出现了。
it"s probably as unlikely that you would nowadays become as rich and famous as bill gates, as it was unlikely in the17th century that you would accede to the ranks of the french aristocracy.
今日你变得像比尔-盖茨一样,有钱又出名的机会,大概就跟你在十七世纪,成为法国贵族一样困难。
but the point is, it doesn"t feel that way. it"s made to feel, by magazines and other media outlets, that if you"ve got energy, a few bright ideas about technology, a garage -- you, too, could start a major thing.
但重点是,感觉却差别很大。今日的杂志和其它媒体让我们感觉,只要你有冲劲、对科技有一些新颖的想法,再加上一个车库,你就可以踏上比尔的道路。
the consequences of this problem make themselves felt in bookshops. when you go to a large bookshop and look at the self-help sections, as i sometimes do -- if you analyze self-help book sproduced in the world today, there are basically two kinds.
我们可以从书店中感受到这些问题所造成的后果,当你像我一样到大型书店里的,自我帮助书籍类。如果你分析现在出版的这些自我帮助类书籍,它们基本上分成两种,
the first kind tells you, "you can do it! you can make it! anything"s possible!" the other kind tells you how to cope with what we politely call "low self-esteem," or impolitely call, "feeling very bad about yourself."
第一种告诉你"你做得到!你能成功!没有不可能!"另外一种则教导你如何处理,我们婉转地称呼为"缺乏自信",或是直接了当地称为"自我感觉极差"。
there"s a real correlation between a society that tells people that they can do anything, and the e_istence of low self-esteem. so that"s another way in which something quite positive can have a nasty kickback.
这两者中间有着绝对的关联,一个告诉人们他们无所不能的社会,和缺乏自信有着绝对的关联。另一件好事也会带来坏影响的例子,
there is another reason why we might be feeling more an_ious --about our careers, about our status in the world today, than ever before. and it"s, again, linked to something nice. and that nice thing is called meritocracy.
还有一些其它原因造成我们对事业,对我们在世上的地位感到前所未有的焦虑,再一次地,它也和好的概念有关,这个好概念叫做"功绩主义"。
everybody, all politicians on left and right, agree that meritocracy is a great thing, and we should all be trying to make our societies really, really meritocratic. in other words -- what is a meritocratic society?
现在,无论是左倾还是右倾的政治人物,都同意"功绩主义"是个好事。我们应该尽力让我们的社会崇尚"功绩主义",换句话说,一个崇尚"功绩主义"的社会是什么样的呢?
a meritocratic society is one in which, if you"ve got talent and energy and skill, you will get to the top, nothing should hold you back. it"s a beautiful idea.
一个崇尚功绩主义的社会相信,如果你有才能、精力和技术,你就会飞黄腾达,没有什么能阻止你,这是个美好的想法。
the problem is, if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you"ll also, by implication, and in a far more nasty way, believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there.
问题是,如果你打从心里相信,那些在社会顶层的人都是精英,同时你也暗示着,以一种残忍的方法,相信那些在社会底层的人,天生就该在社会底层,
i nother words, your position in life comes to seem not accidental, but merited and deserved. and that makes failure seem much more crushing.
换句话说,你在社会的地位不是偶然,而都是你配得的,这种想法让失败变得更残忍。
you know, in the middle ages, in england, when you met a very poor person, that person would be described as an "unfortunate" -- literally, somebody who had not been blessed by fortune, an unfortunate.
你知道,在中世纪的英国,但你遇见一个非常穷苦的人,你会认为他"不走运",直接地说,那些不被幸运之神眷顾的人。
nowadays, particularly in the united states, if you meet someone at the bottom of society, they may unkindly be described as a "loser." there"s a real difference between an unfortunate and a loser,
不幸的人,尤其在美国,如果人们遇见一些社会底层的人,他们被刻薄地形容成"失败者","不走运"和"失败者"中间有很大的差别,
and that shows 400 years of evolution in society and our belief in who is responsible for our lives. it"s no longer the gods, it"s us. we"re in the driving seat.
这表现了四百年的社会演变,我们对谁该为人生负责看法的改变,神不再掌握我们的命运,我们掌握自己的人生。
that"s e_hilarating if you"re doing well, and very crushing if you"re not. it leads, in the worst cases -- in the analysis of a sociologist like emil durkheim -- it leads to increased rates of suicide.
如果你做的很好,这是件令人愉快的事。相反的情况,就很令人沮丧。社会学家emil,durkheim分析发现,这提高了自杀率,
there are more suicides in developed, individualistic countries than in any other part of the world. and some of the reason for that is that people take what happens to them e_tremely personally -- they own their success, but they also own their failure.
追求个人主义的发达国家的自杀率,高过于世界上其它地方,原因是人们把发生在自己身上的事情,全当作自己的责任,人们拥有成功,也拥有失败。
is there any relief from some of thesepressures that i"ve been outlining? i think there is. i just want to turn to afew of them. let"s take meritocracy. this idea that everybody deserves to getwhere they get to, i think it"s a crazy idea, completely crazy.
有什么方法可以解决刚才提到的这些焦虑呢?是有的。我想提出几项,先说"功绩主义",也就是相信每个人的地位忠实呈现他的能力,我认为这种想法太疯狂了,
i will support any politician of left and right, with any halfway-decent meritocratic idea; i am a meritocrat in that sense. but i think it"s insane to believe that we will ever make a society that is genuinely meritocratic; it"s an impossible dream.
我可以支持所有相信这个想法的,无论是左倾还是右倾的政治家,我同样相信功绩主义,但我认为一个完全彻底以能力取决地位的社会,是个不可能的梦想。
the idea that we will make a society where literally everybody is graded, the good at the top, bad at the bottom, e_actly done as it should be, is impossible. there are simply too many random factors:
这种我们能创造一个每个人的能力都忠实地被分级,好的就到顶端,坏的就到底部,而且保证过程毫无差错,这是不可能的。这世上有太多偶然的契机,
accidents, accidents of birth, accidents of things dropping on people"s heads, illnesses, etc. we will never get to grade them, never get to grade people as they should.
不同的机运,出身,疾病,从天而降的意外等等,我们却无法将这些因素分级,无法完全忠实的将人分级。
i"m drawn to a lovely quote by st. augustine in "the city of god," where he says, "it"s a sin to judge any man by his post." in modern english that would mean it"s a sinto come to any view of who you should talk to, dependent on their business card. it"s not the post that should count.
我很喜欢圣奥古斯丁在"上帝之城"里的一句话,他说"以社会地位评价人是一种罪"。用现在的口吻说,看一个人的名片来决定你是否要和他交谈是罪。
according to st. augustine, only god can really put everybody in their place; he"s going to do that on the day of judgment, with angels and trumpets, and the skies will open. insane idea, if you"re a secularist person, like me.
对圣奥古斯丁来说,人的价值不在他的社会地位,只有神可以决定一个人的价值,他将在天使围绕、小号奏鸣,天空破开的世界末日给于最后审判,如果你是像我一样的世俗论者,这想法太疯狂了,
but something very valuable in that idea, nevertheless.in other words, hold your horses when you"re coming to judge people. you don"t necessarily know what someone"s truevalue is.
但这想法有它的价值。换句话说,最好在你开口评论他人之前悬崖勒马,你很有可能不知道他人的真正价值,这是不可测的。
that is an unknown part of them, and we shouldn"t behave as though it is known. there is another source of solace and comfort for all this. when we think about failing in life, when we think about failure, one of the reasons why we fear failing is not just a loss of income, a loss of status.
于是,我们不该为人下定论,还有另一种慰藉,当我们想象人生中的失败,我们恐惧的原因并不只是失去收入,失去地位,
what we fear is the judgment and ridicule of others. and it e_ists.the number one organ of ridicule, nowadays, is the newspaper. if you open the newspaper any day of the week,
我们害怕的是他人的评论和嘲笑,它的确存在。今日世界上最会嘲笑人的便是报纸。每天我们打开报纸,
it"s full of people who"ve messed up their lives. they"ve slept with the wrong person, taken the wrong substance, passed the wrong piece of legislation -- whatever it is, and then are fit for ridicule. in other words, they have failed.
都能看到那些把生活搞砸的人,他们与错误对象共枕,使用错误药物,通过错误法案种种,让人在茶余饭后拿来挖苦的新闻,这些人失败了,
and they are described as "losers." now, is there any alternative to this? i think the western tradition shows us one glorious alternative, which is tragedy.
我们称他们为"失败者",还有其它做法吗?西方传统给了我们一个光荣的选择,就是"悲剧"。
tragic art, as it developed in the theaters of ancient greece, in the fifth century b.c., was essentially an art form devoted to tracing how people fail, and also according them a level of sympathy, which ordinary life would not necessarily accord them.
悲剧的艺术来自古希腊。西元前五世纪,这是一个专属于描绘人类失败过程的艺术,同时也加入某种程度的同情。在现代生活并不常给于同情时。
a few years ago, i was thinking about this, and i went to "the sunday sport," a tabloid newspaper i don"t recommend you start reading if you"re not familiar with it already.
几年前我思考着这件事,我去见"周日运动期刊",如果你还不认识这个小报,我建议你也别去读。
and i went to talk to them about certain of the great tragedies of western art. i wanted to see how they would seize the bare bones of certain stories, if they came in as a news item at the news desk on a saturday afternoon.
我去找他们聊聊,西方艺术中最伟大的几个悲剧故事,我想知道他们会如何露骨地以新闻的方式,在周日下午的新闻台上,呈现这些经典悲剧故事。
i mentioned othello; they"d not heard of it but were fascinated.i asked them to write a headline for the story. they came up with "love-crazed immigrant kills senator"s daughter." splashed across the headline.
我谈到他们从未耳闻的《奥赛罗》,他们啧啧称奇。我要求他们以奥赛罗的故事写一句头条,他们写道"移民因爱生恨,刺杀参议员之女"大头条。
i gave them the plotline of madame bovary. again, a book they were enchanted to discover. and they wrote "shopaholic adulteress swallows arsenic after credit fraud."
我告诉他们《包法利夫人》的故事,他们再一次感到惊异万分,写道"不伦购物狂信用欺诈,出墙妇女吞砒霜"。
and then my favorite -- they really do have a kind of genius of their own, these guys -- my favorite is sophocles" oedipus the king: "se_ with mum was blinding."
我最喜欢的是,这些记者真的很有才,我最喜欢的是索福克勒斯的《俄狄浦斯王》,"与母亲的盲目性爱"。(掌声)
in a way, if you like, at one end of the spectrum of sympathy, you"ve got the tabloid newspaper. at the other end of the spectrum, you"ve got tragedy and tragic art.
如果同情心的一个极端,是这些八卦小报。另一个极端便是悲剧和悲剧艺术,
and i suppose i"m arguing that we should learn a little bit about what"s happening in tragic art. it would be insane to call hamlet a loser. he is not a loser, though he has lost.
我想说的是或许我们该从悲剧艺术中学习,你不会说汉姆雷特是个失败者,虽然他失败了,他却不是一个失败者。
and i think that is the message of tragedy to us, and why it"s so very, very important, i think.
我想这就是悲剧所要告诉我们的,也是我认为非常重要的一点。
the other thing about modern society and why it causes this an_iety, is that we have nothing at its center that is non-human. we are the first society to be living in a world where we don"t worship anything other than ourselves.
现代社会让我们焦虑的另一个缘故是,我们除了人类以外没有其它重心。我们是从古至今的第一个无神社会,除了我们自己以外,
we think very highly of ourselves, and so we should; we"ve put people on the moon, done all sorts of e_traordinary things. and so we tend to worship ourselves.
我们不膜拜任何事物,我们对自己评价极高,为什么不呢,我们把人送上月球,达成了许多不可思议的事,我们习惯崇拜自己。
our heroes are human heroes. that"s a very new situation. most other societies have had, right at their center, the worship of something transcendent: a god, a spirit, a natural force, the universe, whatever it is --
我们的英雄是人类,这是一个崭新的情况。历史中大部分的社会重心都是敬拜一位人类以外的灵体,神,自然力、宇宙,总之是人类以外的什么。
something else that is being worshiped. we"ve slightly lost the habit of doing that, which is, i think, why we"re particularly drawn to nature.
我们逐渐失去了这种习惯,我想这也是我们越来越被大自然吸引的原因。
not for the sake of our health, though it"s often presented that way, but because it"s an escape from the human anthill. it"s an escape from our own competition, and our own dramas.
虽然我们时常显示是为了健康,但我不这么认为,我认为是为了逃避人群的蚁丘,逃避人们的疯狂竞争,我们的戏剧化,
and that"s why ween joy looking at glaciers and oceans, and contemplating the earth from outside its perimeters, etc. we like to feel in contact with something that is non-human, and that is so deeply important to us.
这便是为什么我们如此喜欢看海、观赏冰山,从外太空观赏地球等等,我们希望重新和那些"非人类"的事物有所连接,那对我们来说很重要。
what i think i"ve been talking about really is success and failure. and one of the interesting things about success is that we think we know what it means. if i said that there"s somebody behind the screen who"s very successful, certain ideas would immediately come to mind.
我一直在谈论成功和失败。成功的有趣之处是,我们时常以为我们知道成功是什么,如果我现在说,这个屏幕后面站着一个非常成功的人,你心里马上就会产生一些想法。
you"d think that person might have made a lot of money, achieved renown in some field. my own theory of success -- i"m somebody who"s very interested in success, i really want to be successful, always thinking, how can i be more successful?
你会想,这个人可能很有钱,在某些领域赫赫有名,我对成功的理解是。首先,我是一个对成功非常有兴趣的人,我想要成功,我总是想着"要怎样我才能更成功?",
but as i get older, i"m also very nuanced about what that word "success" might mean.here"s an insight that i"ve had about success: you can"t be successful at everything.
但当我渐渐长大,我越来越疑惑,究竟什么是"成功"的真正意义。我对成功有一些观察,你不可能在所有事情上成功。
we hear a lot of talk about work-life balance. nonsense. you can"t have it all. you can"t. so any vision of success has to admit what it"s losing out on, where the element of loss is.
我们常听到有关工作和休闲的平衡,鬼话。你不可能全部拥有。你就是不能。所有对成功的想象,必须承认他们同时也失去了一些东西,放弃了一些东西。
and i think any wise life will accept, as i say, that there is going to be an element where we"re not succeeding.
我想一个智者能接受,如我所说,总是有什么是我们得不到的。
and the thing about a successful life is that a lot of the time, our ideas of what it would mean to live successfully are not our own. they"re sucked in from other people; chiefly, if you"re a man, your father,
常常,我们对一个成功人生的想象,不是来自我们自己,而是来自他人。如果你是个男人,你会以父亲做榜样,
and if you"re a woman, your mother. psychoanalysis has been drumming home this message for about 80 years. no one"s quite listening hard enough, but i very much believe it"s true.
如果你是个女人,你会以母亲做榜样,精神分析已经重复说了80年,但很少有人真正听进去。但我的确相信这件事。
and we also suck in messages from everything from the television, to advertising, to marketing, etc. these are hugely powerful forces that define what we want and how we view ourselves.
我们也会从电视、广告,各样的市场宣传中得到我们对成功的想象。这些东西影响了我们,对我们自己的看法、我们想要什么。
when we"re told that banking is a very respectable profession, a lot of us want to go into banking. when banking is no longer so respectable, we lose interest in banking. we are highly open to suggestion.
当我们听说银行业是个受人尊敬的行业,许多人便加入银行业,当银行业不再受人尊敬,我们便对银行业失去兴趣,我们很能接受建议。
so what i want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but we should make sure that they are our own. we should focus in on our ideas, and make sure that we own them; that we are truly the authors of our own ambitions.
我想说的是,我们不该放弃,我们对成功的想象,但必须确定那些都是我们自己想要的,我们应该专注于我们自己的目标,确定这目标是我们真正想要的,确定这个梦想蓝图出自自己笔下。
because it"s bad enough not getting what you want, but it"s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want, and find out, at the end of the journey, that it isn"t, in fact, what you wanted all along.
因为得不到自己想要的已经够糟糕了,更糟糕的是,在人生旅程的终点,发觉你所追求的从来就不是你真正想要的。
so, i"m going to end it there. but what i really want to stress is: by all means, success, yes. but let"s accept the strangeness of some of our ideas.
我必须在这里做个总结,但我真正想说的是,成功是必要的,但请接受自己怪异的想法,
let"s probe away at our notions of success. let"s make sure our ideas of success are truly our own.thank you very much.
朝着自己对成功的定义出发,确定我们对成功的定义都是出于自己的真心。非常感谢各位。
chris anderson: that was fascinating. but how do you reconcile this idea of it being bad to think of someone as a "loser," with the idea that a lot of people like, of seizing control of your life, and that a society that encourages that, perhaps has to have some winners and losers?
主持人:说的真好。你要如何与自己和解,把一个人称为失败者是糟糕的,但许多人都想掌握自己的生活,一个追求这些的社会难免要有赢家和输家。
alain de botton: yes, i think it"s merely the randomness of the winning and losing process that i want to stress, because the emphasis nowadays is so much on the justice of everything, and politicians always talk about justice. now i"m a firm believer in justice, i just think that it"s impossible.
阿兰?德波顿:是的,我只是想提出,在输赢的过程中有太多偶然,今日我们太讲求所有事情的正义和公平,政治人物总是在谈论正义,我非常支持正义,我只是觉得那不可能,
so we should do everything we can to pursue it, but we should always remember that whoever is facing us, whatever has happened in their lives, there will be a strong element of the haphazard.
我们应该尽力,尽力去追求正义,但我们也应该记得,我们所面对的,无论在他们人生中发生过什么,偶然总是一个强烈的因素,
that"s what i"m trying to leave room for; otherwise, it can get quite claustrophobic.
我希望大家留一点空间这么想,不然真令人有一种幽闭恐怖症的感觉。
ca: i mean, do you believe that you can combine your kind of kinder, gentler philosophy of work with a successful economy?
主持人:我是说,你是否相信,在这种温和的哲学下,可以产生一个发达的经济?
or do you think that you can"t, but it doesn"t matter that much that we"re putting too much emphasis on that?
还是你认为那不可行?还是我们这样反复提醒人们也不甚重要?
ab: the nightmare thought is that frightening people is the best way to get work out of them, and that somehow the crueler the environment, the more people will rise to the challenge.
阿兰?德波顿:梦魇是相信恐吓人们是刺激他们发奋的最好办法,或是环境越残酷,就会有越多人接受挑战。
you want to think, who would you like as your ideal dad? and your ideal dad is somebody who is tough but gentle. and it"s a very hard line to make. we need fathers, as it were, the e_emplary father figures in society, avoiding the two e_tremes, which is the authoritarian disciplinarian on the one hand, and on the other, the la_, no-rules option.
你必须想,你的理想父亲是怎样的?你的理想父亲往往是严厉又温和的,虽然这界限很难画定,我们社会需要的模范性人物是像一个理想父亲,不要走极端,不要完全集权、纯粹纪律,也不要模糊马虎,乱无规章。
ca: alain de botton.
ab: thank you very much.
非常感谢.
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演说题目:如何在不过度管教的情况下,培养出成功的孩子!
演说者:julie lythcott-haims
you know, i didn"t set out to be a parenting e_pert. in fact, i"m not very interested in parenting, per se. it"s just that there"s a certain style of parenting these days that is kind of messing up kids, impending their chances to develop into themselves.
我并不打算成为育儿专家。事实上,我对育儿本身也不感兴趣。只是这些天有某种育儿风格的出现,是不利于孩子成长的,而且阻碍了他们发展自己的机会。
there’s a certain style of parenting these days that’s getting in the way. i guess what i’m saying is, we spend a lot of time being very concerned about parents who aren’t involved enough in the lives of their kids and their education or their upbringing, and rightly so.
某种育儿风格的出现正阻碍着孩子的成长。各位我要说的是,我们把大量的时间花在关心哪些父母没有足够的参与孩子的生活中,他们的教育或者抚养中,理应如此。
but at the other end of the spectrum, there’s a lot of harm going on there as well, where parents feel a kid can’t be successful unless the parent is protecting and preventing at every turn, and hovering over every happening, and micromanaging every moment, and steering their kid towards some small subset of colleges and careers.
但从另外一个极端来说,这样做会有很多的坏处,父母认为他们的孩子不会成功,除非有父母事事的保护和阻止,对每件事的权衡,围观管理每个时刻并引导他们对大学和职业的选择。
but not just the grades, the scores, but the accolades and the awards and the sports, the activities, the leadership. we tell our kids, don’t just join a club, start a club, because colleges want to see that. and check the bo_ for community service. i mean, show the colleges you care about others.
但不仅是成绩和分数,更是获得的表扬和奖项,还有运动活动上的,领导力上的荣誉。我们告诉他们, 别加入俱乐部,自己创建了一个,因为大学想看到这个,然后检查信箱关于社区服务的信息。我的意思是,展示给大学看你是关心别的。
and all of this is done to some hoped-for degree of perfection. we e_pect our kids to perform at a level of perfection. we were never asked to perform at ourselves, and so because so much is required, we think, well then, of course we parents have to argue with every teacher and principle and coach and referee and act like our kid’s concierge and personal handler and secretary.
这样做都是为了达到某种完美程度的期望值。我们期待小孩表现出一定程度的完美。却没有要求自己本身去做到,因为我们认为这样做太多必要性了,我们曾与每一位老师,校长,教练,裁判员理论过表现的像是小孩的看门人,私人管家和秘书。
and then with our kids, our precious kids, we spend so much time nudging, cajoling, hinting, helping, haggling, nagging as the case may be, to be sure they’re not screwing up, not closing doors, not ruining their future, some hoped-for admission to a tiny handful of colleges that deny almost every applicant.
当我们的孩子,最爱的孩子在一起时,我们根据情况花大量的时间催促,诱骗,暗示,帮助,争论,唠叨,来确保他们不搞破坏,不关门,不毁他们的前途,寄予希望他们能上几乎否认每位申请人的为数不多的大学。
and they see in our faces that our approval, that our love, that their very worth, comes from a’s. and then we walk alongside them and offer clucking praise like a trainer at the westminster dog show-coa_ing them to just jump a little higher and soar a little farther, day after day after day.
他们从我们脸上看到我们的认可和爱,拿a时是非常有价值的。于是我们走在他们身边,给予他们咯咯的表扬,像西敏市犬展里的训练员一样,哄他们跳得更高和飞得更远一样,日复一日这么做。
and when they get to high school, they don’t say, ‘ well, what might i be interested in studying or doing as an activity?’ they go to counselors and they say,’ what do i need to do to get into the right college?’
好吧,要是我对学习或者某种活动感兴趣呢?他们会找到顾问并说,"要上到好的大学,我需要做点什么?"
and then, when the grades start to roll in in high school, and they’re getting some b’s, or god forbid some c’s, they frantically te_t their friends and say, ‘has anyone ever gotten into the right college with these grades?’
高中成绩出现波动的时候,他们拿到的是b或者c,他们火急火燎地发短信给他们的朋友并说道,"有人以这种成绩上到好的大学吗?"
and our kids, regardless of where they end up at the end of high school, they’re breathless. they’re a little burned out. they’re a little old before their time, wishing the grow-ups in their lives had said,’what you’ve done in enough, this effort you’ve put forth in childhood is enough.’
我们的孩子,不管他们是从哪所高中毕业,他们喘不过气来,他们容易生气,他们有点精疲力尽了。他们年长了一些,并希望大人们说你所做的已经足够了,你童年所付出的努力已经足够了。
but if you llok at what we’ve done, if you have the courage to really look at it, you’ll see that not only do our kids think their worth comes from grades and scores, but that when we live right up inside their precious developing minds all the time, like our own version of the movie ‘being john malkovich,’ we send our children the message: ‘hey kid, i don’t think you can actually achieve any of this without me.’
但假如你看看你所做的,如果你真的有勇气看的话,你会发现孩子认为,他们的价值不仅仅来源于成绩和分数,并且我们很多时候存在于他们珍贵,正在形成的思想中。就想电影约翰.马尔科维奇的自己版本,我们向孩子传递这样的信息:我认为你要有我时你才能完成这些。
so simply put, if our children are to develop self-efficacy, and they must, then they hav to do a whole lot more of the thinking, planning, deciding, doing, hoping, coping, trial and error, dreaming, and e_periencing of life for themselves。
所以简单地来说,如果我们的孩子建立了自我效能感,那么他们必须做出更多人生的思考,计划,决定,活动,希望,应对,试错,梦想,和自己的经历。
now, am i saying every kid is hard-working and motivated and doesn’t need a parent’s involvement or interest in their lives, and we should just back off and let go? hell no. that is not what i’m saying. what i’m saying is, when we treat grades and scores and accolades and awards as the purpose of childhood, all in furtherance of some hoped-for admission to a tiny number of colleges or entrance to a small number of careers, that ’s too narrow a definition of success for our kids.
现在,我说的是每位孩子都很用功和有上进心,不需要父母的参与或对他们的人生感兴趣。我们只需要退后和放手?显然不是。这不是我说的。我要说的是,当我们把成绩和分数,荣誉和奖项作为孩子童年的目的时,寄予希望他们能进入为数不多的大学和某个职位时,那么以这种定义孩子的成败太狭义了。
and even though we might help them achieve some short-term wins by overhelping like they get a better grade if we help them do their homework, they might end up with a longer childhood resume when we help-what i’m saying is that all of this comes at a long-term cost to their sense of self. what i’m saying is , we should be less concerned with the specific set of colleges they might be able to apply to or might get into and far more concerned that they have the habits, the mindset, the skill set, the wellness, to be successful wherever they go.
尽管我们通过过度帮忙实现了他们的短期胜利,就像我们协助他们做作业可能拿到更高分,在我们的协助下他们可能会以更长的童年履历结束,我想说的是所有这些长期的代价,需基于自我意识。我想说的是,我们需要给予更少的关注,对于他们具体可能会申请哪所大学,参与给予更多的关注在他们形成的习惯,心态,技能,健康,无论他们去哪儿都能成功的能力。
what i’m saying is, our kids need us to be a little less obsessed with grades and scores and a whole lot more interested in childhood providing a foundation for their success built on things like love and chores.
我想说的是,我们的孩子需要我们对他们的成绩和分数少一点关注,对他们的童年多一份关心。为他们的成功提供基础,比如在爱和家务活。
did i just say chores? did i just say chores? i really did. but really, here’s why. the longest longitudinal study of humans ever conducted is called the harvard grant study. it found that professional success in life, which is what we want for our kids, that professional success in life comes from having dong chores as a kid, and the earlier you started, the better, that a roll-up-your-sleeves.
我说家务活了吗?我说家务活了吗?我的确说了。原因如下,有史以来最长的纵向人类学研究是哈佛格兰特研究。研究发现生活中的职业成功,是我们想让孩子得到的。生活中的职业成功来自于孩子从小做家务活,越早开始越好,卷起衣袖。
and pitch in mindest, a mindset that says, there’s some unpleasant work, someone’s got to do it, it might as well be me, a mindset that says, i will contribute my effort to the betterment of the whole, that’s what gets you ahead in the workplace.
一种出一份力的心态,有些不尽人意的活,不得不去做的,这个人可能是我,我将贡献我的努力去改善,这点会使你在职场中遥遥领先。
now, we all know this. you know this. we all know this, and yet, in the checklisted childhood, we absolve our kids of doing the work of chores around the house, and then they end up as young adults in the workplace still waiting for a checklist, but it doesn’t e_ist, and more importantly, lacking the impulse, the instinct to roll up their sleeves, and pitch in and look around and wonder, how can i be useful to my colleagues?how can i anticipate a few steps ahead to what my boss might need?
现在,我们都知道这点,你也知道。我们都知道这些,然而在清单式童年中,我们不要孩子来做家务,他们最终成为职场中的年轻人,仍旧等待着不存在的清单,更重要的是他们缺乏冲动,卷起衣袖的本能,贡献一份力量并环顾四周想知道,怎样我才能有所作为?我怎么能提前预测几步知道老板需要什么?
a second very important finding from the harvard grand study said that happiness in life comes from love, not love of work, love of humans: our spouse, our partner, our friends, our family.
哈佛格兰特研究中第二个非常重要的发现是生活中的快乐来源于爱,不是对工作的爱,而是人与人之间的爱:我们的爱人,伙伴,朋友,假如。
so childhood needs to teach our kids how to love, and the they can’t love others if they don’t first love themselves, and they won’t themselves if we can’t offer them unconditional love.
因此从小需要教孩子如何去爱,如果不首先爱上自己,就不能爱别人,如果我们没有提供无条件的爱,他们就无法爱自己。
right. and so, instead of being obsessed with grades and scores, when our precious offspring come home from school, or we come home from work, we need to close our technology, put away our phones, and look them in the eye, and let them see the joy that fills our faces, when we see our child for the first time in a few hours.
因此与其沉迷于成绩和分数,当我们最爱的孩子放学回家时,或者我们下班回家,我们需要关闭设备,放下手机,看着他们的眼睛,让他们看到我们满脸的快乐。
and then we have to say,’ how was your day? what did you like about today?’ and when your teenage daughter says,’lunch,’ like mine did, and i want to hear about the math test, not lunch, you have to still take an interest in lunch. you gotta say, ‘what was great about lunch today?’
我们应该说,你今天怎么样啦?今天你喜欢的事情是什么?当你女儿说,"午餐," 和我一样,我想听的是数学测验而不是午餐,你应该仍然把注意力放在午餐上。你要说"今天的午餐好在哪里啊?"
they need to know they matter to us as humans, not because of their gpa. all right, so you’re thinking, chores and love, that sounds all well and good, but give me a break. the colleges want to see top scores and grades and accolades and awards, and i’m going to tell you, sort of.
他们需要知道他们对我们来说很重要,这并不是因为他们的平均成绩。现在你正在想着家务活和爱。这听起来不错,但让我休息一下。大学想要看到高分数好成绩和荣誉奖项,我想说的是,在一定程度上是。
the very biggest brand-name schools are asking that of our young adults, but here’s the good news. contrary to what the college rankings racket would have us believe-you don’t have to go to one of the biggest brand name schools to be happy and successful in life.
最有名的名牌大学会问年轻人,但这里有好消息。相反美国大学排行榜让我们相信-你不一定非要去最有名的一所大学才算得上快乐和成功。
happy and successful people went to state school, went to a small college no one has heard of, went to community college, went to a college over here and flunked out.
快乐和成功的人们去公立学校,去一些没人听过的大学,或者社区大学,来到大学,考试不及格。
the evidence is in this room, is in our communities, that this is the truth. and if we could widen our blinders and be willing to look at a few more colleges, maybe remove our own egos from the equation, we could accept and embrace this truth and then realize, it is hardly the end of the world, if our kids don’t go to one of those big brand-name schools.
证据就在我们这里,在我们的社区,这是事实。如果我们可以拓宽眼界,并乐意多看几所大学,也许能从这种情况中消除自我,我们接受这个事实并意识到,如果我们的孩子不能上名牌大学,这不是世界末日。
and more importantly, if their childhood has not been lived, according to tyrannical checklist then when they get to college, whichever one it is, well, they’ll have gone there on their own volition, fueled by their own desire, capable and ready to thrive there.
更重要的是,如果他们的童年不是遵循残暴的清单,那么当他们上了大学,无论哪一所大学,他们是凭着意志力取得的,由他们自己的渴望促成,有能力茁壮成长。
i have to admit something to you. i’ve got two kids i mentioned, sawyer and avery. they’re teenagers. and once upon a time, i think i was treating my sawyer and avery like little bonsai trees-that i was going to carefully clip and prune and shape into some perfect form of a human one of the most highly selective colleges.
我不得不向你们承认,之前提到的那两个孩子索耶和艾佛利。他们是青少年,曾经几何,我认为我对待索耶和艾佛利像小盆景,我要仔细修剪形成某些人类的完美形式,其中一所名牌大学。
but i’ve come to realize, after working with thousands of other people’s kids-and raising two kids of my own, my kids aren’t bonsai trees. they’re wildflowers of an unknown genus and species-and it’s my job to provide a nourishing environment, to strengthen them through chores and to love them so they can love others and receive love and the college, the major, the career, that’s up to them.
但我已经意识到,在与成千上万个孩子一起工作后,并自己培育两个小孩,我的小孩不是盆景数。他们是未知物种的野花,我的工作是提供营养丰富的环境,从家务活和爱他们中让他们变的更加坚强,因此他们能爱别人并接受到爱,对于大学,专业,职业,这取决于他们。
my job is not to make them become what i would have them become, but to support them in becoming their glorious selves.thank you!
我的工作不是使他们成为我所想的模样,而是支持他们成为最好的自己。谢谢。
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