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曾经的我一度以为爱情是这世界上最美的东西,没有杂念,没有欺骗,所有日子都像落叶和风一样微笑地住在睫毛下,安静而热烈。老师家长显然是不同意这种青涩的感情,总觉得这太浪费青春,太难废时间,才使得叛逆的我们更加放肆,一度迷茫地去追求所谓的爱。
而现在我信奉缘分,相信佛说的前世五百次回眸才能换来今生的相遇,我告诉自己,青春不转弯,随安而遇,我把这当做我听话的表现,因为我没有浪费时间,浪费青春……
这样并非贬低年少的感情,也没有对爱情不恭的意思。相反,我支持年少的爱,她的纯洁,清晰而模糊,清晰的是年少裸露的纯洁感情,模糊的是来路不明的青涩感觉,我们都在前进,带着心目中的爱情去追寻暧昧的感觉。
然而,在老师家长的恐吓下,我承认我有些怕了。于是,我思索着关于我的爱情。字里行间露出我的胆小于惧怕,我只能说“未来的爱情”而不敢大声张扬道“我要谈恋爱!”
既然这样,就一切随安而遇吧!
“随安而遇”我喜欢这个词,没有禁锢,没有束缚,一切挣开捆绑,全部只有解放。这样的感觉很惬意,或许这个词就是对我心目中爱情的诠释吧!
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鲁豫演讲稿:冷知识,热爱情
在之前的超演舞台上我做过两次讲演,都讲的是跟爱情有关的话题,今天我还是想讲一讲跟爱情有关的话题,我尽可能的用一些数据尽可能从科学角度去分析一下这见鬼的爱情。
有美国的信息学家发表过这样一个表格我们来看一下:每天全世界有三百万情侣开始第一次约会。这意味着每天有三百万崭新的爱情开始发生了,所以我们心里可以有一些希望的火苗开始燃烧,你就想哪怕我找不到男朋友或者女朋友只要我等着死磕轮都能轮到我。下面我要用更多的数据把你这个希望的火苗给它浇灭,因为还有科学家告诉我们说爱情完全是一种生化反应,它是有期限的,可以延续平均是十八个月。这漫长的一生十八个月过去以后怎么办,我告诉你还有科学家会告诉你爱情不仅是有期限的而且我们的基因就已经决定了人类根本上可能是花心的、会是见异思迁的,还有什么,有可能像文涛那样是重色轻友的。还有的科学数据告诉我们,我们这一生在最终碰到那个人之前,平均我说的是平均每个人至少会经历四次非常糟糕的约会,会经历两次心碎,在你最终找到那个真爱之前平均每个人要谈十二到十四甚至十六个男朋友或者女朋友,这相当于我们读的那个童话故事里面说的在你最终亲到那个王子或者公主之前你需要亲很多很多个“青蛙”甚至“瘌蛤蟆”。
怎么办?我们就彻底放弃爱情集体崩溃,我的做法就是让数据去见鬼,哪怕你失恋三十三天,失恋三百三十三天,失恋三年,但是你想一想当一切过去之后留在你心里的是有一些关于爱情的其实挺美好的记忆,可能是片段、是个画面、是个声音、是一段音乐,你们肯定都还记得那个人第一次抓你的手他的那个手可能是冰凉的,你的手也是冰凉的,然后你们俩有一些微微的颤抖那感觉,你肯定记得那个人第一次吻你的时候他的嘴唇很温润的那个感觉,你肯定有一天会有那样的经历就是你失恋之后你的心破碎之后你大半夜的发疯一样去爬什么香山或者跑到海边然后冲着那个黑夜你就喊他的名字。那个画面特别矫情但是每个人早晚有一天可能会做这样的事儿,很多这样关于爱的记忆会留在我们心里。
我一直有一个梦想就是有一天如果我碰到了一个特别爱的人,我要有勇气说一段电影台词:almost for all , i’m just a girl ,standing in front of a boy ,asking him to love her. (其实我就是个女孩站在一个男孩的面前祈求他能够爱我。)这段话不知道为什么每一次我看都有一种热泪盈眶的感觉,我特别希望有一天我能够特有勇气的说这段话。在做这个演讲之前我问过我的很多朋友我说爱对你们来说意味着什么,有人说爱情是个动词有人说爱情始于欲望,但是最终超越欲望,我最喜欢有一个人的回答他说爱情是肌肤之亲,爱情是一蔬一饭,爱情更是我们绝望生活的英雄梦想,这句话我要作为我的座右铭也献给大家。
鲁豫相关人物评价:
陈鲁豫是中国为数不多的“会装傻的主持人”,多年的访谈节目经历让她擅长于面对面的倾听与沟通,她可以做到,只要嘉宾愿意说话,她全程一声不吭,让嘉宾自由发挥。能克制表现欲,不去打搅被访者,这样的主持人,才是一个真正好的访谈主持人。
真人秀节目中,陈鲁豫是一个平和的导师,她通常以鼓励的方式引导学员进步。访谈节目中,陈鲁豫也是一位非常愿意欣赏对方的主持人。而在公司管理中,陈鲁豫很严格,但“并不严厉”。
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论爱情中英互译演讲稿
舞台上的爱情生活比生活中的爱情要美好得多。因为在舞台上,爱情只是喜剧和悲剧的素材,而在人生中,爱情却常常招来不幸。它有时象那位诱惑人的魔女(1),有时又象那位复仇的女神(2)。
you may observe, that amongst all the great and worthy persons (whereof the memory remaineth, either ancient or recent) there is not one, that hath been transported to the mad degree of love: which shows that great spirits, and great business, do keep out this weak passion. you must e_cept, nevertheless, marcus antonius, the half partner of the empire of rome, and appius claudius, the decemvir and lawgiver; whereof the former was indeed a voluptuous man, and inordinate; but the latter was an austere and wise man: and therefore it seems (though rarely) that love can find entrance, not only into an open heart, but also into a heart well fortified, if watch be not well kept.
你可以看到,一切真正伟大的人物(无论是古人、今人,只要是其英名永铭于人类记忆中的),没有一个是因爱情而发狂的人。因为伟大的事业只有罗马的安东尼和克劳底亚是例外(3)。前者本性就好色荒淫,然而后者却是严肃多谋的人。这说明爱情不仅会占领开旷坦阔的胸怀,有时也能闯入壁垒森严的心灵----假如手御不严的话。
it is a poor saying of epicurus, satis magnum alter alteri theatrum sumus; as if man, made for the contemplation of heaven, and all noble objects, should do nothing but kneel before a little idol, and make himself a subject, though not of the mouth (as beasts are), yet of the eye; which was given him for higher purposes.
埃辟克拉斯(4)曾说过一句笨话:“人生不过是一座大戏台。”似乎本应努力追求高尚事业的人类,却只应象玩偶般地逢场作戏。虽然爱情的奴隶并不同于那班只顾吃喝的禽兽,但毕竟也只是眼目色相的奴隶,而上帝赐人以眼睛本来是有更高尚的用途的。
it is a strange thing, to note the e_cess of this passion, and how it braves the nature, and value of things, by this; that the speaking in a perpetual hyperbole, is comely in nothing but in love. neither is it merely in the phrase; for whereas it hath been well said, that the arch-flatterer, with whom all the petty flatterers have intelligence, is a man’s self; certainly the lover is more. for there was never proud man thought so absurdly well of himself, as the lover doth of the person loved; and therefore it was well said, that it is impossible to love, and to be wise. neither doth this weakness appear to others only, and not to the party loved; but to the loved most of all, e_cept the love be reciproque. for it is a true rule, that love is ever rewarded, either with the reciproque, or with an inward and secret contempt.
过度的爱情追求,必然会降低人本身的价值。例如,只有在爱情中,才总是需要那种浮夸陷媚的.词令。而在其他场合,同样的词令只能招人耻笑。古人有一句名言:“最大的奉承,人总是留给自己的。”----只有对情人的奉承要算例外。因为甚至最骄傲的人,也甘愿在情人面前自轻自贱。所以古人说得好:“就是神在爱情中也难保持聪明。”情人的这种弱点不仅在外人眼中是明显的,就是在被追求者的眼中也会很明显----除非她(他)也在追求他(她)。所以,爱情的代价就是如此,不能得到回爱,就会得到一种深藏于心的轻蔑,这是一条永真的定律。
by how much the more, men ought to beware of this passion, which loseth not only other things, but itself! as for the other losses, the poet’s relation doth well figure them: that he that preferred helena, quitted the gifts of juno and pallas. for whosoever esteemeth too much of amorous affection, quitteth both riches and wisdom.
由此可见,人们应当十分警惕这种感情。因为它不但会使人丧失其他,而且可以使人丧失自己本身。甚至其他方面的损失,古诗人早告诉我们,那追求海伦的人,是放弃了财富和智慧的(5)。
this passion hath his floods, in very times of weakness; which are great prosperity, and great adversity; though this latter hath been less observed: both which times kindle love, and make it more fervent, and therefore show it to be the child of folly. they do best, who if they cannot but admit love, yet make it keep quarters; and sever it wholly from their serious affairs, and actions, of life; for if it check once with business, it troubleth men’s fortunes, and maketh men, that they can no ways be true to their own ends.
由此可见,人们应当十分警惕这种感情。因为它不但会使人丧失其他,而且可以使人丧失自己本身。甚至其他方面的损失,古诗人早告诉我们,那追求海伦的人,是放弃了财富和智慧的(5)。
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if i speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, i am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. if i have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if i have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, i am nothing. if i give all i possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, i gain nothing.
love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
love never fails. but where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. for we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. when i was a child, i talked like a child, i thought like a child, i reasoned like a child. when i became a man, i put childish ways behind me. now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. now i know in part; then i shall know fully, even as i am fully known. and now these three remain: faith, hope and love. but the greatest of these is love.
it hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
a sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
it's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
it takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone- but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. don't go for looks; they can deceive. don't go for wealth, even that fades away. go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want
to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
always put yourself in the other's shoes. if you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.
a careless word may kindle strife; a cruel word may wreck a life; a timely word may level stress; a loving word may heal and bless.
the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
there was once a guy who suffered from cancer, a cancer that can?ˉt be cured. he was 18 years old and he could die anytime. all his life, he was stuck in his house being taken cared by his mother. he never went outside but he was sick of staying home and wanted to go out for once. so he asked his mother and she gave him permission.
he walked down his block and found a lot of stores. he passed a cd store and looked through the front door for a second as he walked. he stopped and went back to look into the store. he saw a beautiful girl about his age and he knew it was love at first sight. he opened the door and walked in, not looking at anything else but her. he walked closer and closer until he was finally at the front desk where she sat.
she looked up and asked, 'can i help you?'
she smiled and he thought it was the most beautiful smile he has ever seen before and wanted to kiss her right there.
he said, 'uh... yeah... umm... i would like to buy a cd.'
he picked one out and gave her money for it.
'would you like me to wrap it for you?' she asked, smiling her cute smile again.
he nodded and she went to the back. she came back with the wrapped cd and gave it to him. he took it and walked out of the store.
he went home and from then on, he went to that store every day and bought a cd, and she wrapped it for him. he took the cd home and put it in his closet. he was still too shy to ask her out and he really wanted to but he couldn?ˉt. his mother found out about this and told him to just ask her. so the ne_t day, he took all his courage and went to the store as usual. he bought a cd like he did every day and once again she went to the back of the store and came back with it wrapped. he took it and when she wasn?ˉt looking, he left his phone number on the desk and ran out...
rrrrring!!!
one day the phone rang, and the mother picked it up and said, 'hello?'
it was the girl!!! the mother started to cry and said, 'you don?ˉt know? he passed away yesterday...'
the line was quiet e_cept for the cries of the boy?ˉs mother. later in the day, the mother went into the boy?ˉs room because she wanted to remember him. she thought she would start by looking at his clothes. so she opened the closet.
she was face to face with piles and piles and piles of unopened cds. she was surprised to find all these cds and she picked one up and sat down on the bed and she started to open one. inside, there was a cd and as she took it out of the wrapper, out fell a piece of paper. the mother picked it up and started to read it. it said: hi... i think u r really cute. do u wanna go out with me? love, jocelyn.
the mother was deeply moved and opened another cd...
again there was a piece of paper. it said: hi... i think u r really cute. do u wanna go out with me? love, jocelyn.
love is... when you?ˉve had a huge fight but then decide to put aside your egos, hold hands and say, 'i love you.'
关于爱情的英文演讲稿
if i speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, i am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. if i have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if i have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, i am nothing. if i give all i possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, i gain nothing.
love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
love never fails. but where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. for we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. when i was a child, i talked like a child, i thought like a child, i reasoned like a child. when i became a man, i put childish ways behind me. now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. now i know in part; then i shall know fully, even as i am fully known. and now these three remain: faith, hope and love. but the greatest of these is love.
it hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
a sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
it's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
it takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone- but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. don't go for looks; they can deceive. don't go for wealth, even that fades away. go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want
to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
always put yourself in the other's shoes. if you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.
a careless word may kindle strife; a cruel word may wreck a life; a timely word may level stress; a loving word may heal and bless.
the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
there was once a guy who suffered from cancer, a cancer that can?ˉt be cured. he was 18 years old and he could die anytime. all his life, he was stuck in his house being taken cared by his mother. he never went outside but he was sick of staying home and wanted to go out for once. so he asked his mother and she gave him permission.
he walked down his block and found a lot of stores. he passed a cd store and looked through the front door for a second as he walked. he stopped and went back to look into the store. he saw a beautiful girl about his age and he knew it was love at first sight. he opened the door and walked in, not looking at anything else but her. he walked closer and closer until he was finally at the front desk where she sat.
she looked up and asked, 'can i help you?'
she smiled and he thought it was the most beautiful smile he has ever seen before and wanted to kiss her right there.
he said, 'uh... yeah... umm... i would like to buy a cd.'
he picked one out and gave her money for it.
'would you like me to wrap it for you?' she asked, smiling her cute smile again.
he nodded and she went to the back. she came back with the wrapped cd and gave it to him. he took it and walked out of the store.
he went home and from then on, he went to that store every day and bought a cd, and she wrapped it for him. he took the cd home and put it in his closet. he was still too shy to ask her out and he really wanted to but he couldn?ˉt. his mother found out about this and told him to just ask her. so the ne_t day, he took all his courage and went to the store as usual. he bought a cd like he did every day and once again she went to the back of the store and came back with it wrapped. he took it and when she wasn?ˉt looking, he left his phone number on the desk and ran out...
one day the phone rang, and the mother picked it up and said, 'hello?'
it was the girl!!! the mother started to cry and said, 'you don?ˉt know? he passed away yesterday...'
the line was quiet e_cept for the cries of the boy?ˉs mother. later in the day, the mother went into the boy?ˉs room because she wanted to remember him. she thought she would start by looking at his clothes. so she opened the closet.
she was face to face with piles and piles and piles of unopened cds. she was surprised to find all these cds and she picked one up and sat down on the bed and she started to open one. inside, there was a cd and as she took it out of the wrapper, out fell a piece of paper. the mother picked it up and started to read it. it said: hi... i think u r really cute. do u wanna go out with me? love, jocelyn.
the mother was deeply moved and opened another cd...
again there was a piece of paper. it said: hi... i think u r really cute. do u wanna go out with me? love, jocelyn.
love is... when you?ˉve had a huge fight but then decide to put aside your egos, hold hands and say, 'i love you.'
站在爱情的边上看爱情(演讲稿)
爱情像sars一样,飞快地传染着我们这些还背着书包的小孩。喧嚣的街头,音乐依然清晰。一边是《情人》,一边是《我们的爱》。
在这个瞬息即变的年代,爱如潮水,泛滥!打开电视,满荧屏的肥皂泡沫偶像剧,轮番上阵。在青春小说里,爱情是永远说不完,磨不破的话题。然而,于电视机前,书桌前,到处都充斥着眼泪的痕迹,哎,总有人不小心被爱情撞了一下腰!“闪电式”的爱情是最频繁上演的剧目。一个男孩今天才为一个女孩唱着《我心永恒》,明天又手拿玫瑰深情地为另一个女孩吟诗。这烟火般的爱,这流星似的情,转瞬即逝,灰飞烟灭,没有谁会去悼念昨天的那段情,没有谁会转身去看看,那灯火栏栅处,是否还有人为此默默等待,因为下一站,还有爱情!
有“马拉松”式的爱情吗?当然,而且也不在少数。两个人从认识到牵手,奔跑着,苦心经营,可到了毕业那天,两人同时伤心,十指相扣的手,说好死也不放开的,终于,默默地放开了,尽管不愿意,但还是不得不唱着《好心分手》。
我说六月是分手的高峰期,而偏偏有人喜欢在这个时间牵手,共同两个月的爱情!甚至不惜牺牲友情,亲情。难道真的只在乎曾经拥有吗?我不懂,不明白这是为什么。我只知道,如果爱了,就要深爱!很简单的爱,没有包袱!
我们这个年纪好像总是很缺氧。等不到春天的来临,不会发芽,抽绿,硬是在寒冬拔苗助长,于是,青涩的爱情开始衰败,慢慢凋零,死去……
每年的情人节,总有一些人孤零零地飘着,在深夜里买醉,枭雄般悲怆地伫立在衰草斜阳中。往日被爱情滋润着的微笑早已被夜卷进无边黑暗中。这都是爱情惹的祸!蓦然回首,一片荒凉,除了心伤,别无他物!事实上,谁无青春两三事,人不风流枉少年嘛!在我们的心里,都有一种关于青春时的蒙胧情感。说出口了,是些青涩懵懂的爱恋,像捅破了的纸窗户,里外透风,因此两人都会着凉;不说出口,将其掩埋,深深掩埋在心里,这或许是一种方式吧!因为我们还没有把握给予对方幸福!也许有一天,你有足够的勇气与能力时,你便能捉住幸福的尾巴,而那时,你如果爱了,请深爱!!!
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大学生爱情观演讲稿篇
各位评委、同学们:
大家好!
狂天,我想跟大家谈一个平凡而又永恒的话题,那就是爱情。爱情,是人类历史上一个恒古不变的主题。梁山伯与祝英台、罗密欧与朱丽叶这些千古绝唱多少年来一直令世人唏嘘不已。现在的大学校园爱情早已不是一个禁忌的话题,恐怕是大学宿舍里“卧谈”最多的内容。所以,今天,我演讲的题目是:初恋,想要问你敢不敢。
某一天,当你坐在午后三点的咖啡屋里,阳光穿过落地玻璃窗,打在你的脸上,有点刺眼,你微微地半眯着眼睛,抬头看到了光线里那一段初恋时光,脸上是否浮现出回忆的微笑,心里是否已感到满足。
而我们是否有曾经听过或自己说过“曾经有一份真挚的感情在我的手中,我却不知如何珍惜,但等我失去后才后悔莫及。”这都是多么的令人感想万千。为此,我们又该如何正确地对待恋情?
恋爱是人生必经的阶段,我们不要一味地去拒绝她,不要过于的否定她,也不要太过于强求她。或许中学阶段我们的确还不适于恋爱,而如今我们已走出了中学时代,进入了大学,关键在于我们自己的正确态度,在于这件事当中我们队它的认识和如何地做出选择取向。
马克思说:“真正的爱情是表现恋人对他的偶像采取含蓄、谦恭甚至羞涩的态度,而绝不是表现在随意流露热情的过早的亲呢。”瓦西列夫在他的《情爱论》中说:“爱情作为男女关系上的一种特殊的审美感而发展起来的,爱情创造了美,使人对美的领悟能力敏锐起来,促进对世界的艺术化认识。”苏霍姆林斯基说:“真正的爱情,这意味着不仅是欣赏美,而且要培植美,创造美。”人本主义心理学家卡尔·罗杰斯说:“爱是深深的理解和接受。”
恋爱需要百分百的真诚和投入。爱情就像是一场奇遇,如果现在在你身边的人不能让你有奇遇的感觉,那说明你还需要等待,这时不如大方一点离开,不要耽误了人家。
每个人心中都有一扇门,是初恋?初吻?两小无猜的情节?还是难忘的回忆......
在那些明媚的青春里,我们的初恋心情,不管是静谧纯净,还是疯狂复杂,都不是以能不能来衡量,而是敢不敢!
我的演讲完毕,谢谢大家!
大学生爱情观演讲稿篇范文
大家好,下面就由我来为大家以大学生恋爱观为主题发表我的演讲。
大家来上大学应该都有同样的两个目的,也不外乎是学习到专业的知识和体验自由生活。当然,这里所说的生活指的一定就不是物质文化生活,而是精神文化生活,我们要利用大学这几年间来学会该怎么去生活。在早期的苏联电影《列宁在1918》中瓦希里对妻子说的一句话那样:“牛奶会有的,面包会有的,一切都会有的……”在这里,牛奶便是我们生活的营养滋润,而面包则指的是我们的学习、事业。爱情在很多人的心目中是伟大的、圣洁的,她是仅存在思维高尚面的精神产物,她是很多人的精神寄托,她能让一对空虚的心灵变得充实。所以,爱情是我们享受大学精神文化生活中必不可少的一部分。
到现在,我们大多数人还能在学校读书的时间,也基本上就只剩下这几年了。一旦我们走进了社会,我们就要去接受社会里很多我们想象不到的现实面,充满了诱惑和险恶的事实会抨击着我们的心灵和钱包。在这时候有谁还会去认真考虑站在自己面前的异性到底对自己是真心的爱,还是为了继续抨击我们的...心灵和钱包呢?在这功利化的社会中寻觅一份属于自己的真爱,那谈何容易!既然这样,那我们何不在大学生活里学有余力的情况下来一场纯洁无暇的恋爱呢?大学生重在学习,学习知识、学习生活。暂时不会被这功利化的社会所污染,与金钱利益隔绝了的爱情是最纯洁的。我相信大多数人在选择恋人时都更希望能找到能与自己相守一生的人,这样的话,大学生活中一段纯洁无阴谋的邂逅就变得尤为重要了。
说到大学生重在学习,不少人都能想到的是:当学习与爱情相冲突时,该怎么办?这确实是个很现实的问题。有的同学一接触恋爱就变得相当不理智了,就和老师说的那样,恋爱中的男女智商都是零,根本就没办法学习了。所以在这些同学眼中,学习还是比恋爱重要,但他们的说法是偏激的,学习与恋爱真的就那么相抵触吗?但是我认为,在大学生活中,学习不是孤立的,恋爱当然也要面对。与其为了不让自己沉迷于恋爱堕落不起而选择放弃面对,不如与自己的伴侣换个方式交流、相处,互相帮助、互相激励、共同上进。爱她就要为她好,避杀虫砍脚趾的办法明显不是一个好的选择,把握好正确的恋爱方式也是能促进学业、事业的,这难道不是一个两全其美的选择吗?
还有一个值得讨论的话题,就是我们应该怎么去面对恋爱中产生的消费。大家都会希望恋爱能在浪漫中度过,999朵玫瑰代表长长久久,在烛光点缀的夜晚,单膝跪地为对方献上闪亮钻戒,博得红颜会心一笑。这种浪漫不是不行,但这毕竟不是每个人都能受得起的,浪漫不一定要靠金钱去堆筑。浪漫是什么?也许就是一句话,一个眼神,一个微笑或是一段岁月!也许...什么也不是?浪漫只是爱情生活的点缀,天天制造浪漫,当你累得受不了时,爱情也就结束了!
很高兴在这里发表我自己的观点,但是恋爱观始终是因人而异的。每个人都有自己的路要走,只要自己觉得有价值的事,去做就是了。希望大家都能有个美好的大学生活,谢谢大家!
爱情主题班会演讲稿
我们小时候,对爱情一知半解,但父母要求我们不要早恋,打算让我们考入大学之后,才允许我们自由恋爱。所以,我相信咱们班里会有一部分人还没有谈过恋爱。当然,并不是说他们以前没有机会谈恋爱,也许会有人曾经被追过,只不过因为一些原因没有成功而已。在此,我想说:谈一场恋爱吧,不求轰轰烈烈,只为了让我们老了之后,能躺在摇椅上,回味一下爱情的甜蜜。不要在人生的大好年华时留下一个哪怕你认为很小的遗憾。
以前我问过一些正在上班的哥哥,你最怀念的时间是神魔时候?绝大部分人回答是大学。因为大学时的恋爱是无忧无虑的,没有家人的干预,没有学校的拘束,老师和同学也不会像初中、高中时那样带着有色眼镜看待你。在大学里,谈恋爱是完全没有顾虑的。
也许你会觉得以后的时间还有很多,而大学正是积累知识财富的时候,而且,觉得每天能安排的时间还不多,怎么能将时间浪费在谈恋爱上面呢。我不否认你说的话。但我还是要纠正一下。首先呢,谈恋爱并不会影响你学习,它仅仅利用你的闲暇时间,并且,有可能会提高你的学习能力,甚至社交能力。毕竟,当你和你男(女)朋友在外参加聚会时,你有近距离聆听他们交谈的机会。其次,有一句至理名言你们都知道---活到老,学到老。你能用你的一生去学习,但是,你敢说:你能用你的一辈子都去谈恋爱吗
以上说的都是没过恋爱经历的,接下来谈一谈有过恋爱经历的。
正在热恋中的人应该能体味到爱情的甜蜜,每天被相约而至,相伴而行,形影不离的美滋润着。分享着彼此的快乐,吐诉着心中的苦闷,体味着人生的幸福。幸福感油然而生,尤其是在你生病时,你的那个他每天陪伴在你身边。与单身自己照顾自己相比,能够有个人一直在关注你照顾你无疑是件幸福的事。
我觉得恋爱是神圣的。你可以多情但不能滥情,因为那不仅是对爱情的玷污,也是对你自身的不负责。它不只是欺骗别人,也是欺骗自己。而且恋爱次数太多并不能成为你吹嘘的本钱,因为爱情在精不在多。谈一场你真正喜欢的你认真的恋爱,你才能感受到恋爱时的美妙,才能感受到生活的真实性。
珍惜吧,大学时光也会转眼消逝。趁着如今年少,紧抓住恋爱脚步,去恋爱吧。
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古代有位美女,嫁给了一个矮矬穷,她整天站在窗边以泪洗面。终于有一天,她与从楼下经过的一个高富帅一见钟情。她认为这才是她的爱情,她要摆脱旧的婚姻的枷锁,于是她一狠心,毒死了自己的丈夫。如果此事发生在今天她大可不必死,只需找我帮她打一个离婚诉讼即可,武大郎也不用死了,兴许他还能拿到一笔可观的分手费。潘金莲为什么要杀死武大郎,因为她认为她和武大郎之间已经不存在爱情了,而她和武大郎之间的婚姻成了她追求新的爱情的绊脚石。30多年前,我削尖了脑袋考入北大,研究法律,研究哲学,但至今我一直解不开一个谜。那就是爱情到底是个什么东东,婚姻又是个什么西西,而这个东东和西西之间又存在着什么南南北北的关系。我的人生经历和我的直觉告诉我,爱情其实是我们每一个人心中的一种信仰,一种向往,一种对真善美的追求,信则有,不信则无。什么海枯石烂,什么白头到老,那不过是诗人的一种浪漫情怀和我们每一个人的自欺欺人。正所谓秀恩爱死得快,古往今来多少钻石爱情,到头来都变成一盆狗血,一地鸡毛。有时夫妻之间,爱与不爱的转换速度之快,让我和我的小伙伴们都惊呆了。那婚姻是什么,婚姻其实就是一种契约。谈恋爱说穿了就像是合同谈判,初吻是一种合作的意向,交换定情物更像是一种合同定金,结婚登记其实就是合同签订,入洞房就是合同的旅行,离婚那是合同的解除。婚姻最大的敌人是什么,那是欲望。人类的欲望与生俱来,无穷无尽,那么怎么办,不停的去离婚?肯定不行。因此我们必须需要一个东西,一种精神层面的东西来控制我们的欲望。那这个东西,就是诚信和契约精神。其实婚姻很简单,婚姻就是喂马劈柴,就是关心粮食和蔬菜,就是有一所房子,面朝大海,春暖花开。海子其实用他的生命为我们描绘了一幅非常温馨的真实的.婚姻的画面。海子是疯癫的,他捧着两本书《圣经》和《瓦尔登湖》到长城的起点去寻找爱情。而海子又是幸福的,当他的身躯躺在长城起点的这篇土地上,当他的头颅枕在那冰冷的铁轨上的那一刻,我相信海子,他找到了爱情。
婚姻与爱情的
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尊敬的老师同学们:
大家下午好,
关于爱情,自古以来,便有无数人按照自身对它的理解,给它下了无数的定义。诗人说,爱情如同美酒一般,初恋时青涩的青稞酒,热恋时炽热的龙舌兰,而相守则是回味无穷的醇美红酒。
社会学家说:爱情是基于一定的社会基础和共同的生活理想,在彼此内心形成的相互倾慕,并渴望成为对方终身伴侣的一种强烈、纯真、专一的感情。
我说:真正的爱是相互的包容,理解,是彼此身心的协调,和谐,真正的爱从来都不是单纯的甜蜜,而是百味陈杂的,是从双方由心产生的一种对对方的关心,信任,愿意把所有号=好的,坏的东西都与他分享。
爱情是简单的,简单到,它只是一种感觉,爱情又是困难的,困难到,它需要经历:认识,了解,追求,热恋,磨合,相爱六个过程,这个过程需要走很长的路,有时候走着走着身边的人就换了,所以爱情又是困难的。
认识:爱情需要缘分,世界上有那么多人,为什么你们就能相遇呢?相遇不是擦肩而过而是认识了彼此呢?因为人的交际圈有限,你所认识的人,是否就有适合你的呢?就有一个是你的真爱呢?爱情通常需要等待,等待一个真正合适的人出现在你生命中,所以,一旦发现了,就勇敢地去认识她吧!
了解:你已经对她有了好感,被她深深吸引,那么是否迫不及待地就开始追求了呢?不,你还需要经历一个阶段——了解。一个人对另一个人的认识和判断,并不是一下子就能做到的。如果,对你心仪的她缺乏了解,就草率地开始追求,即使成功,也给双方的未来埋下了隐患,因为你或许喜欢的只是她身上某个瞬间散发出的优点,却不了解她的缺点你是否也能包容。你需要在你开始追求前,与她的点滴相处中,了解你们是否适合继续交往,所以,我认为一见钟情是赌,赌自己的幸福!
追求:追求是被追求者考察追求者的阶段,也是追求者考验自己的过程。追求的过程有幸福与欢乐,因为你可以不计回报地对喜欢的人好,你因为能帮助她解决困难,得到她的一句谢谢而开心半天。追求的过程也有痛苦,当对方告诉你,你不是她的心仪对象,当你的追求方法不当,引起她的厌烦,当她不确定自己的感情,对你若即若离时。追求一个人,也是对自己的考验,你是否是真的喜欢她呢?还是想简单开始一段恋情,打发寂寞?你是否能经受得起她的考验呢?你是否足够长情,不会变心呢?你若想好了,那就勇敢地去接受来自她和自己的考验吧!
热恋:当爱情进入了热恋期,两个人仿佛融合在一起了,一刻也不愿分离,每一分钟都在想着她,她身上仿佛全是优点。你精心打扮,一天换掉十几件衣服。和她在一起的时候,你脸上总是带着笑容。每一天都是新鲜的,在一起的时间总是过得特别地快,每晚依依不舍的送她回家,每晚幸福满足地对她说一声晚安。热恋期是恋爱中最美好的时期,你就是我的炫迈口香糖,怎么嚼都停不下来。
磨合:热度总有一天会冷却下来,稳定的相恋状态将面临磨合期,这个过程中,是对恋人们的真正考验期。克服磨合期,才是从喜欢升华到了爱情。当从热恋中醒来,发现原来我们是完全独立的个体,意识到对方也不是完美无缺的。我们会开始争吵,冷战,因为激情褪去,现实涌来,很多人没有勇气去面对平淡,而选择了放弃。磨合期是一个漫长的过程,恋爱双方必须懂得宽容,理解对方,互相鼓励着闯过这一关,度过这一关的恋人们将由单纯的吸引升华为知己状态,经历了风雨,经历了磨合,达到心灵协调的状态。
怎么度过磨合期呢?恋爱双方应该多些真心的交流,了解彼此的需求,给彼此更多的自由,信任。改变单调的生活方式,创造一些小惊喜。
相爱:度过了磨合期的恋人们,已经可以很协调地处理好爱情与友情,学业,私事的关系了,懂得了彼此包容,彼此已经非常了解,即使有了矛盾,总会有一方主动让步,另一方懂得顺坡下驴,冲突减少了,爱情将升华到了亲情阶段,你们已经很难再分开了,因为你们已经是亲人了。
恋爱中的建议:你们在交往中可能会遇到很多问题:争吵,猜疑,冷战,诱惑,但是只要学会处理这些问题,坚持真心地交流,学会包容对方,相互信任,尊重,付出。用八分的力气去爱对方,留下两分来爱自己,以免失去自我,或觉得委屈。
不要害怕去爱,珍惜你的她,珍惜你们的缘!
我的演讲到此结束,谢谢大家!
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大家好,我来自轮机3班。我今天演讲的题目是爱情。
不知道大家有没有发现自从我们上了大学以后,有相当多的一部分人都在鼓励我们谈恋爱。在离开家的那一刻我们的父母鼓励我们谈恋爱;在迎新晚会上我们的院长鼓励我们谈恋爱;在我们第一节课上我们的科任老师也鼓励我们谈恋爱!这时,我诧异了。高中时所有人都反对我们谈恋爱而现在所有的人都鼓励我们谈恋爱。我真想知道是我疯了还是世界疯了。爱这东西什么时候可以控制发生的时间了。这个世界的发展真让我恐慌!所以我今天想谈一谈关于爱情的话题。
首先我们肯定得问,到底什么是爱情?有的人说爱情是一个围城。在围城外面的人幻想着它有多美好,一心想进去。里面人的却迫切地想出来!还有的人说,爱情是人与人之间的强烈的依恋、亲近、向往,以及无私专一并且无所不尽其心的情感。而科学家说,爱情是一种生理反应,有化学物质作用。当你与异性相处时,你的大脑会分析你们的dna,按一定原则,确定你对ta的好感。据说原则是你们基因的相似度越小越好,但,如果两人相处久了,这种好感就会被你的大脑选择性忽略。认识久了,就没爱情了吗?也不是,如果你对某人很好,而ta很快乐。此时身体会分泌内啡肽。这种物质能产生快乐,抑制痛苦。随着交往的继续,体内会分泌多巴胺和血清胺。多巴胺会提高人的兴奋水平,产生愉悦感。它是去甲肾上腺素的前提,说白了它多,肾上腺素就多,你就越兴奋。所以段誉见了王语嫣就忘乎所以,胡言乱语。血清胺是一种中间物质,它最终也会使人体兴奋,愉悦。但它更持久,因为有一系列的生化反应后才会起作用。它们加上内啡肽所产生的一系列感觉就是爱情。
我相信大部分的人都更倾向于第二种说,因为人们都更喜欢喜欢美好的事物。并且都更愿相信美好。哪怕那只是一个美丽的梦,人们也不愿醒来。其实我并不懂爱情。我也不能武断的说到底那一种能称之为爱情。我只会凭最简单的方法去辨别爱情,那就是感觉。
一千多年前,苏格拉底的徒弟问苏格拉底:“什么是恋爱?”苏格拉底带他来到一片麦田说:“你在这片麦田里走一遍,其间不许往回走,并在其中摘下最大的一个麦穗。”那个徒弟做完后,一个麦穗也没摘来,苏格拉底告诉他这就是恋爱。恋爱对象无所谓最好的,只有最适合的。不要总去追逐所谓的最好而错过了最适合你的那一个。
还有,爱情它理应需要距离。俗话说得好,距离产生美。在非洲有一种豪猪,身上的毛硬而尖。天气寒冷的时候,它们就聚在一起互相靠身体取暖。但是当它们靠近时,身上的毛尖会刺痛对方使它们立刻分开,分开后因为寒冷它们又聚在一起,聚在一起因为痛又分开,这样反复数次,最后它们终于找到了彼此间的最佳距离——在最轻的疼痛下得到最大的温暖。其实,爱情也像豪猪一样,豪猪的距离其实也就是爱情的距离。
最后我想说每个人的爱情都是一部电影,自己是这部电影的主角兼导演,自己诠释的这部电影到底是艺术片?悲情片?无声片?商业片?灾难片还是色情片?都取决于自己对待人生的态度!谢谢
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尊敬的老师们,亲爱的同学们:
大家好!
“乒乓球,我爱你,就像老鼠爱大米”,咦,是谁在小声的唱歌啦?原来是妈妈在陪我去实验小学打乒乓球的路上,我高兴得情不自禁的哼起了我原创的“乒乓球”之歌。
妈妈骑着电动车,轻车熟路地拐了几个弯后来到了实验小学的后操场,在那儿已经等了许久的吴一鸣立刻跑上前来迫不及待道:“快点来,等了你那么久呐!”说完便把我拉到乒乓球桌边。
“要不一一今天来玩三点的?”,听了这话,吴一鸣立刻摆好了迎战的姿势,一副胜券在握的样子。
我也不甘示弱,左腿在前,右腿在后,摆好工字步,拿起乒乓球拍一挑,便开始了一场热火朝天的乒乓球大赛。
来来回回打了十几个回合,仍不分胜负,我有些沉不住气了,准备用球拍一抽,一球了结他算了!正好他发个高球来了,我见此机会,趁火打铁,把拍一压,把球抽了过去!
“哎呦”,吴一鸣见我这样,知道我要抽,不禁叫了起来,球以迅雷不及掩耳之势来到了他面前,谁知吴一鸣也是乒乓球的惯手,急忙退后几步,把手放下一点,球便被他接住了,向我面前直打而来,而我却正以为吴一鸣接不住球呢,已经在得意洋洋了,一看球打到了我桌上,我赶忙去接,可惜却接不到了,我后悔莫及,心中暗暗警惕自己:下一次不要再轻敌啦!
这一次轮到妈妈和我对打,正所谓“吃一堑,长一智”有了上次的经验,这一次我可警惕多了。
妈妈可是“耍人能手”,正所谓耍人,就是东打一下西打一下,变化无常,所以妈妈比吴一鸣更加难以对付,只见妈妈发球时,用球拍把球往前一“送”,球便飞快的来到了我跟前,我也一“送”,互相“送”了几个来回,妈妈便不送啦,开始玩“旋”的啦,妈妈把球拍一旋,球打到我这儿时,突然原本去左边的球去了右边,要不是我反应快,险些吃了大亏。妈妈一计不成,又生一计,开启了他的“耍人模式”,妈妈东也打一下,西也打一下,西又打一下,让人琢磨不透她,下一次球又会发到哪边,并且还得时刻小心妈妈的旋球,唉!这个妈妈打起乒乓球来,真是让人不“省心”啊!
不过,就是因为有这样“诡计多端”的妈妈陪着我练球,又有一些像吴一鸣这样的好朋友伴着我打球,才更让我爱上了打乒乓球的滋味,我真想向全世界唱出我的心声:“乒乓球,我爱你,就像老鼠爱大米”,你把我的课余时间,点缀得丰富多彩,我爱你,乒乓球!
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大家好:
今天我想和大家探讨一个老生常谈的问题——大学生的婚恋观。据父辈们讲述,大概二十年前,校园里谈恋爱的现象还很鲜见,当时大学生谈恋爱都是非常的隐蔽的。而现在,谈恋爱已经是大学生活中的一个组成部分,与之相伴随的,当代大学生的婚恋观也越来越趋于开放。
大学校园是社会生活的一个缩影,它不可能脱离社会大环境而孤立存在。这就导致了大学生对恋爱问题的态度更多地受到社会文化的影响,像温馨浪漫的电影大片,情人节等各种节日,偶像剧的经典情节以及网上沸沸扬扬的感情话题等等,都使年轻人的心随之跳动。虽然我们军校是一个相对封闭的环境,但我们的学员也并不例外。
爱情和婚恋是大学阶段比较现实而又普遍的问题,当代大学生在爱情婚恋观上,越来越多的采取了比较开放、自我、随意的态度,呈现出婚恋观的价值多元化和恋爱关系形式的多样化。但由于自身道德理性的不成熟,主体角色的不明确以及客观上社会环境的影响,以至于在他们身上表现出了种.种矛盾。
就我个人观点,大学生恋爱大致可以分为以下几种:
1、金钱至上型
所谓金钱至上型,就是指谈恋爱的双方看重的是对方的金钱储备。而把才识、学历等等放在其次。
这样的例子在生活中并不少见,我一个同学所在学校有一个女同学,一开始遇到一个男生给她的第一感觉挺好,这位男生是系里的骨干,各方面表现都比较优秀,两人算是比较投缘,于是就恋爱了。但后来这个女同学从周围同学那边了解到,这个男生是来自农村,家贫无业。这个女同学就有点看不上人家,就决定与那个男生分手了。
现实中有许多恋人因为受社会的影响,养成了固有的爱慕虚荣的心理,所以对于感情是比较现实而显得有点游移的。
2、单纯简单型
而单纯简单型指的是恋爱双方最看重的是自己与对方时刻拥有的那份真心实意,考虑的是一种感觉,至于其它方面则考虑得很少。
这里也可以举个例子:是关于我听说的一个别的海军院校的一个男孩子的爱情故事,他与一位女孩从大二到大四,恋爱了三年,感情一直是比较纯的,也没有向上面说的金钱至上的问题,可以说是在于一切功利名义之外的,所以四年来感情也未曾有过裂缝。可惜好景不长,毕业后面临着分配问题,各种因素导致双方不得不各奔东西。
像这样的恋人,虽然他们的感情生活很美满,但是却经受不起现实的考验。所以说,像这样单纯简单型的恋爱方式在现实面前也是不堪一击的。3、游戏型
这种恋爱方式也是现在大学生恋爱的一种特色。就是恋爱双方彼此都抱着玩玩而已的态度,他们的感情一般是比较轻浮的,都是彼此从对方那边找到一种填补空缺的方式。某个地方大学的一位女生,她在老家有一个男友,已经谈了六七年了,但一到了大学,她又耐不住寂寞,于是又偷偷与好几个男生谈起恋爱来。
这也是一个普遍的问题。现在有的大学生的恋爱动机往往不是出于追求爱情本身,而是为了追求刺激,或者是为了那些书上说的、电影里描述的感觉,可以说这些都是极端不付责任的,而这也是不正确的恋爱观。
4、金钱和爱情两不误型
这一类型,我想是大多数人所孜孜于求的,它既有浪漫的爱情又有现实的经济条件作铺垫,两全其美。所以它也是令人羡慕的类型。
说到令人羡慕的确一点不假,在校园中一度令人津津乐道的“完美情人”即是一个很好的例子,之所以称之为完美也就是我们刚才说到的两者兼务备了。有这样一对恋人,男的是干部子女,家里较为富裕,女的是公司老板的女儿,是个千金小姐,加之他们对对方又是互相体贴照顾,因此毕业后,两人一切条件都成熟了,不久就结婚,生活过得也很美满。他们的恋爱史也成为校园美谈之一。
那么树立正确的婚恋观应该怎么做,就此问题,我发表几点观点:
1、要摆正自己的思想,不受一些地方上的不良恋爱风气影响。有些学员认为,恋爱很正常。但现在有的大学生的恋爱动机往往不是出于爱情本身,而是为了弥补内心的空虚、孤独,或是随大流有从众心理;也有的是为了展示自己的魅力,便同时和几位异性同学交往、周旋,甚至和谁都不确定恋爱关系。应当认识到自己作为一名军校学员,身上担负的责任。把更多的精力投入到学习中去,而不要为儿女私情牵肠挂肚。
2、多和周围的人交流。根据我的观察发现,一般学员在遇到问题的时候不喜欢跟别人交流。特别是当遇到情感所产生的问题时,将近一半的学生会找以前的同学或者密友诉苦,而找周围的同志或是找心里辅导交流的几乎没有。在更多数情况下,学员们还是选择自己处理,不向任何人求助。日子一久,心里就憋出毛病了。
平时多和周围的人交流,不要把自己局限在自己以前的小圈子里,遇到感情问题和同志们一起谈谈心,这样既可以一起解决问题,又可以拉近彼此之间的距离。遇到大家都没办法的,还可以找找队干部,相信队干部们也会很乐意为大家解决这些问题的。
3、 控制情绪、放开视野、利用爱情的强大动力、和恋人互相帮助、共同提高。通过加强自我修养、不断进行自我完善,减少情绪的波动性。
最后我想说:
爱情是人类最高尚的情感,之所以高尚,是因为爱情不只是为了满足基本的生理需要,还有更高的心理需要和社会需要。
爱情是美感、道德感、理智感的完美统一,是人类歌颂的永恒的主题。只有真正了解爱情的真谛,善于在热恋时保持心理平衡的人,才会有甜蜜的爱情生活,不然的话,尝到的只会是爱情的苦果。
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